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Key Two: Imagine Your Sexuality

Phd Brian R. Clement New World Library ePub

As selfishness and complaint pervert and cloud the mind,
so love with its joy clears and sharpens the vision.

— Helen Keller (1880–1968)

To liberate the free attention necessary for developing an enduring and satisfying sex life, you must first banish anxiety, shame, guilt, and inhibitions about sexual expression. That means opening your mind to new ways of thinking about sexuality. “Sex is first and foremost a psychological issue,” affirms Barnaby Barratt, PhD, president of the American Association of Sex Educators.1

Not only does our mind directly influence our ability to feel desire and then to achieve orgasmic pleasure, but it — and the intention we set with it — also can literally reprogram groups of cells in our body to alter their expression and function. As an illustration of this mind-over-matter power, consider the evidence presented in an article in Scientific American Mind, which begins with this description of a remarkable experiment:

She did not often have such strong emotions. But she suddenly felt powerless against her passion and the desire to throw herself into the arms of the cousin whom she saw at a family funeral. “It can only be because of that patch,” said Marianne, a participant in a multinational trial of a testosterone patch designed to treat hypoactive sexual desire disorder, in which a woman is devoid of libido. Testosterone, a hormone ordinarily produced by the ovaries in women, is linked to female sexual function, and the women in this 2005 study had undergone operations to remove their ovaries.

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53. See the Big Picture

Jim Donovan New World Library ePub

There’s an old story about a group of men working as welders on an assembly line, making parts for a spaceship. When a visitor asked one of the men what he was doing, the man grumbled, “I’m assembling these metal parts,” and continued with his work, doing what he was told, nothing more, nothing less, until quitting time.

The next man, who also seemed pretty unhappy, mumbled something about being a welder and continued on with his work. Both men seemed to be your typical disgruntled factory workers, drudging through their day, counting the minutes until quitting time.

As he approached the third man, the visitor could not help but notice that this man was humming a tune to himself and appeared quite happy. Surprised by this, especially after encountering the two unhappy men, the visitor became curious to know why this particular man seemed happier than the others.

When he approached the man and asked what he was doing, the man stood tall and proudly declared, “I’m welding these parts for a critical assembly in the spaceship that will be taking men into space and bringing them safely back home. I’m proud to be doing such important work.”

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47. Promote Your Company

Jim Donovan New World Library ePub

I was in line at the bank one day when the teller asked the woman in front of me how she was. “Oh, I’m fine,” the woman replied, “but my car is another story entirely. It keeps having problems, and I don’t know if it’s worth pouring more money into it or if I’d be better off just buying another one.” The teller, a pleasant young woman, empathized with the woman, wished her a good day, and greeted me.

What’s wrong with this scene?

Had the teller read this book or been to one of my seminars, she would have recognized the opportunity to bring her employer new business. Had she been properly trained in customer service she would have picked up on the opportunity to suggest that the woman speak with a bank officer to learn about auto loans. She may have even walked the woman over and introduced her to a bank officer.

The fact that the teller was not in sales or, as is it referred to in banking, “business development,” does not mean she cannot be taught to listen to what people are saying and to recognize an opportunity to bring the bank new business when it presents itself.

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15. The Case for Internally Geared Bicycle Hubs by Aaron Goss

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Aaron Goss

Take a look at the next bike you see. Chances are it will have a derailleur drivetrain, with a cluster of different-sized gears at the center of the rear wheel. I like to call them external gears. The modern bicycle’s derailleur-based drivetrain has evolved with one purpose in mind: racing. There is a more sensible alternative for everyday bikes: the internally geared planetary hub (IGH). Along with fixed-gear or coaster (back-pedal) brake bikes, those with internal gears have a simple drivetrain that is more durable and easier to maintain. Belt- and shaft-drive bikes are also included in this category. Instead of being externally mounted on the rear hub, an internal gearing mechanism is contained within the rear hub. Like a derailleur system, it is controlled by a shifter mounted on or near the handlebars. The number of gears varies among models, from as few as two to as many as fourteen. The range of gears can be varied to suit your riding terrain.

Internal hubs offer several key advantages over derailleur systems.

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Chapter 15: Taoism

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“Trees and animals, humans and insects, flowers and birds: these are active images of the subtle energies that flow from the stars throughout the universe. Meeting and combining with each other and the elements of the Earth, they give rise to all living things. The superior person understands this, and understands that her own energies play a part in it. Understanding these things, she respects the Earth as her mother, the heavens as her father, and all living things as her brothers and sisters.” “Those who want to know the truth of the universe should practice . . . reverence for all life; this manifests as unconditional love and respect for oneself and all other beings.”

LAO TZU
(trans. by Brian Walker)

“If you want to nourish a bird, you should let it live any way it chooses. Creatures differ because they have different likes and dislikes. Therefore the sages never require the same ability from all creatures. . . . The true saint leaves wisdom to the ants, takes a cue from the fishes, and leaves willfulness to the sheep.”

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