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SECRET 7: FIND OUT HOW BIRTH CENTERS BRIDGE THE CHOICE

Kalena Cook, Margaret Christensen University of North Texas Press ePub

SECRET 7:
Find Out How Birth Centers
Bridge the Choice

Free-standing birth centers offer a bridge between home and a hospital. You have the comforts of home—a bedroom, kitchen, bathroom, sitting area—to gather family and friends without tidying up. The environment feels more relaxing than a bustling hospital. But there’s oxygen, resuscitation equipment, and a baby warmer tucked discreetly inside an armoire.

In addition to being as safe as a hospital,1 the main advantage in using a birth center is the personalized, one-on-one care. Your midwife gets to know you—your concerns and preferences. Prenatal visits cover more in-depth information than an obstetrician may have time for. Over a cup of tea, your midwife might review your nutrition regimen, or if you have other children with you, let them listen to their sibling’s heartbeat. All of which provides greater relaxation, so important in natural birth.

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11: FORMING UNITY CIRCLES

Vargas, Roberto Berrett-Koehler Publishers ePub

There is tremendous power when people gather in a circle. The circle serves to create a synergistic environment where people feel more connected and are better able to share and listen. In addition, many healing traditions recognize that the circle serves to facilitate healing by creating a vessel in which the positive energy generated by the group’s sharing is enhanced, negative energy that participants may be carrying is dissipated, and the group’s energy facilitates individual transformation.

My vision for society includes that, on any given day, thousands of circles of family and friends are expressing love for each other, gratitude for life, and optimism that we are making the world better for all. It involves people coming together as family and community, and sharing feelings and thoughts with each other that deepen connection, empower, and inspire. The best strategy for doing this is the unity circle. Learning to appreciate the power of these circles and how to facilitate them will prepare you with a valuable tool for making almost any group gathering an opportunity for inspiration. This chapter presents a series of examples of unity circles to activate your imagination around their many possible forms and to illustrate the role of the circle maker. The chapter ends with a review of key principles to assist the facilitator.

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3 Why Do We See the World the Way We Do?

Ross, Howard J.; Tartaglione, JonRobert Berrett-Koehler Publishers ePub

If you’re treated a certain way you become a certain kind of person. If certain things are described to you as being real they’re real for you whether they’re real or not.

— JAMES BALDWIN

I have established how important belonging is to human beings. One of the most important ways that we form these connections is through a common morality, a common set of values. How we see ourselves and determine what is important to us and the groups to which we belong is a fundamental part of our orientation to life. Questions of moral choice, such as how we decide between right and wrong and how we make some of life’s hardest decisions, are undoubtedly some of the most intricate, multifaceted problems we are likely to come across, and they are deeply rooted in our relationships to the groups to which we belong. Our morality plays such an important role in connecting us to others that it is important for us to look at how our morality shapes the world we see.

Let’s consider one of the most famous thought experiments in human ethics, the Trolley Dilemma.1 You see a trolley car coming down the track at a high rate of speed. When you look down the track in the direction the trolley is heading, you see five workers whom you have no way of warning about the oncoming trolley. Assume that they will be killed if the trolley is not diverted. However, you are standing in front of a lever that you can pull to turn the trolley onto a different set of tracks on which there is only one worker. Is it acceptable for you to pull the lever and redirect the trolley onto the track where the one worker is standing, knowing that this worker will consequently be killed?

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14 The Path to War

The Arbiner Institute Berrett-Koehler Publishers ePub

Avi yanked himself from the memory of his suicide attempts and looked squarely at Carol.

“So no, Carol,” he said, “my stuttering was not the cause of my problems. Rather, I carried a heart at war—a heart at war with others, myself, and the world. I had been using my stuttering as a weapon in that war and had gotten myself into a place where I was seeing and feeling crookedly and self-justifyingly. That was my problem. And I wasn’t able to find my way out of it until I found my way out of my need for justification.”

“How were you able to do it?” Carol asked, her voice barely more than a whisper. “How did you get rid of your need for justification?”

Avi smiled at her. “That, Carol, will be our topic for tomorrow.”

“You’re going to leave it at that?” Lou asked Avi. “You just told us you tried to commit suicide twice and now we’re just going to leave for the evening?”

Avi chuckled. “You want to hear more about it?”

“Well, I don’t know,” Lou pulled back. “Maybe.”

“I’ll tell you more about it tomorrow,” Avi promised. “But in our last forty minutes or so this evening, I think it would be best to review what we’ve covered today. That way, we’ll come back tomorrow with a solid understanding.

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5 Beneath Effective Leadership

, The Arbinger Institute Berrett-Koehler Publishers ePub

“After nine years at the law firm,” Bud began, “I left to become general counsel of Sierra Product Systems. Do you remember Sierra?”

Sierra had pioneered several of the processes that Zagrum had exploited to climb to its place at the top of the high-tech manufacturing heap. “Of course,” I replied. “Their technologies changed the industry. Whatever happened to them?”

“They were acquired—by Zagrum Company.”

“Really? I never heard that.”

“The deal was sort of complicated. But the long and short of it is that Zagrum acquired most of Sierra’s useful intellectual property—patents and so on. That was 16 years ago. At the time, I was COO of Sierra and came to Zagrum as part of the deal. I had no idea what I was getting into.” Bud reached for his glass and took a drink. “At the time, Zagrum was a bit of a mystery. But I was introduced to the mystery of Zagrum in a hurry—in my second major meeting, to be exact.

“Being intimately familiar with the key acquisitions from Sierra, I joined Zagrum as part of the executive team. In my first meeting, I was given several difficult assignments to complete before the next meeting in two weeks. It was a heavy load, learning the business and all.

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