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THE ACKNOWLEDGING DIALOGUE WITH CHILDREN

Susanne Soborg Christensen Karnac Books ePub

THE ACKNOWLEDGING DIALOGUE WITH CHILDREN

Developing acknowledging intimacy with our children can be a special challenge because we parents need to be both loving and nurturing, while also taking responsibility for making decisions, choices, and instructing our children at times when they need guidance.

Our job is to point our children in the right direction – even if they might occasionally experience us as unloving. As parents, one hopes we have an overview and the ability to assess the consequences of the choices our children want to make. Yet again, we must say no to eating sweets after they have brushed their teeth, insist on giving them warm clothes when it is cold, and say no to going out for the second night in a row when the homework is piling up.

Perhaps you find it easier to be an attentive parent rather than the parent who has to take responsibility for guiding your child. If this is how you feel, it could be difficult for you to tell your child in no uncertain terms that presently it is bedtime, and that there will be no more evenings out this weekend. You may hope that your child will recognize the importance of such rules. When this does not happen, you probably get annoyed, and might begin to scold and feel like giving up.

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ACKNOWLEDGING INTIMACY IN OUR DAILY LIVES

Susanne Soborg Christensen Karnac Books ePub

ACKNOWLEDGING INTIMACY IN OUR DAILY LIVES

By now, it is no secret that to us that the recipe for a vibrant couple and family relationship is the acknowledging intimacy. In this chapter, we will take an in-depth look at what acknowledging intimacy is and what it means to live with or without this quality. Furthermore, we will focus on how we show acknowledging intimacy when we are with those we love.

Sharing acknowledging intimacy quite simply means that we are able to feel more authentically ourselves in an unambiguous way, and that we are able to be more aware of what goes on in the minds and souls of other people. For many reasons, we are not always equally ready to join in this “dance” with our children or partner. But don’t panic; nobody is able at any given time to offer a 100% intimacy or acknowledgement. That is the human condition!

Sharing acknowledging intimacy can happen automatically and unconsciously, but the point here is that we can also begin to be more intentional and conscious about showing acknowledging intimacy. It is not difficult to talk, write, and read about the importance of being present and close in relationships. What is much more difficult is to practise what we preach – especially so when the music is playing louder and we are feeling insecure.

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Wished upon a Star

Dan E. Burns University of North Texas Press PDF

Wished upon a Star

July 1990. Carrollton, Texas

The Carrollton Public Library didn’t smell like an office; it smelled

of cedar pencil shavings and Windex, an elementary school classroom. The tables were populated by schoolchildren writing their book reports. I was dressed for success: suit, tie, and briefcase. I didn’t belong here. Likely a pedophile, the librarian no doubt thought, playing hooky from work.

I should be in an office building downtown, handing speech drafts to a secretary, or on an American Airlines flight to New York to interview the CEO of IBM, or giving a presentation in the Dell boardroom.

The librarian, black-frocked Miss Colfin, hair done up in a Pentecostal bun, pretended to ignore me but I felt she was watching out of the corner of her eye. Would she think I was going to stash books in my briefcase and sneak out? Would she think it was full of drugs?

Trying to look professional, I found the card catalogue and pulled out the musty “AU” drawer.

“No, Blunderbuss,” a voice in my head said, addressing me.

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1. Favorite Books, Favorite Music

Peggy Heinkel-Wolfe University of North Texas Press PDF

YEAR

FOUR

Favorite Books, Favorite Music

WE RETURNED TO THE NIMBUS GRAY SKIES of an upstate New York winter with our Christmas bounty, including several new toys for the boys and more winter clothes, something we didn’t collect much of while living in California. Sam received three halfhour videotapes filled with Dr. Seuss books from Mark’s aunt, a West Texas schoolteacher, for a Christmas present. He watched them on Mom and Dad’s video player dozens of times before we left. With one book on each tape, the animators set Dr.

Seuss’s words in motion. Sam’s eyes darted as capital A catapulted across the screen.

“BIG A little a

What begins with A?”

I hoped Sam might see the letter a and recognize the secret code of this squiggly shape: the first sound of “Aunt Annie’s alligator . . . . . . . A . . a . . A.” But at least something literary and artful held his attention for thirty minutes at a time.

We were finding places for the new stuff all around the living room floor, making the flat look like a kids’ house where

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A Poolside Chat: Resources for Applying Whale Done Principles

Blanchard, Ken Berrett-Koehler Publishers ePub

DELVING INTO greater detail, this section will help answer questions you may have about the Whale Done approach as you prepare to use it with your own children. While this book has focused mainly on young children, Whale Done also works with older children, including teenagers—and, indeed, with people of all ages—because the approach is based on universal principles of behavioral science. We realize we have covered only a few of the many typical issues parents face. However, if you have been reading between the lines, you realize that Whale Done is an approach that, used with skill, can be applied to virtually any parenting situation. So, whenever you are faced with a parenting issue, think, What would a Whale Done Parent do?

Part of setting things up for success is understanding the concepts that form the basis of the Whale Done method. Following are some definitions of terms used in the book.

A Whale Done is any positive response on the parent’s part to a desirable behavior the child exhibits. It calls attention to doing right and reinforces that behavior. The response might be verbal, tactile (e.g., a pat or hug), or material (e.g., a treat, toy, or Whale Done sticker on a chart).

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