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1 Enemies in the Desert

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“I’m not going!” The teenage girl’s shriek pulled everyone’s attention to her. “You can’t make me go!”

The woman she was yelling at attempted a reply. “Jenny, listen to me.”

“I’m not going!” Jenny screamed. “I don’t care what you say. I won’t!”

At this, the girl turned and faced a middle-aged man who seemed torn between taking her into his arms and slinking away unnoticed. “Daddy, please!” she bawled.

Lou Herbert, who was watching the scene from across the parking lot, knew before Jenny spoke that this was her father. He could see himself in the man. He recognized the ambivalence he felt toward his own child, eighteen-year-old Cory, who was standing stiffly at his side.

Cory had recently spent a year in prison for a drug conviction. Less than three months after his release, he was arrested for stealing a thousand dollars’ worth of prescription painkillers, bringing more shame upon himself and, Lou thought, the family. This treatment program better do something to shape Cory up, Lou said to himself. He looked back at Jenny and her father, whom she was now clutching in desperation. Lou was glad Cory had been sent here by court order. It meant that a stunt like Jenny’s would earn Cory another stint in jail. Lou was pretty sure their morning would pass without incident.

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16 A Gift in Wartime

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“So, how was everyone’s evening?” Avi asked with a big smile once the group had seated themselves in the room.

Lou looked around at them and was surprised to discover that he felt at home in the room, as if among friends. Yes, that is what they have become, he thought. Pettis, the fellow vet and clear-minded student. Elizabeth, the high-minded Brit with subtle humor and surprising self-honesty. Ria and Miguel, the oddly matched couple with an ongoing battle over the dishes. Jenny’s quiet and timid parents, Carl and Teri. Even Gwyn, Lou’s blustery counterpart, who had accused Lou of being racist. Lou started chuckling at the realization that he was even glad to see Gwyn.

“Lou, what’s so funny?” Avi asked.

“Oh nothing,” he smiled. “It’s just good to see everyone this morning, that’s all.”

“Even me?” Gwyn asked with a wry smile.

Especially you, Gwyn,” Lou laughed.

In the comfort of the moment it was easy to forget how much had changed since the morning before.

“So how do we get out of the box?” Avi asked rhetorically. “How can our hearts turn from war to peace? That is the question for today.”

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Publishers, 1972.

Ayres, A. Jean. Sensory Integration and the Child. Los Angeles: Western

Psychological Services, 1979.

Engel, Barbara. The Horse, the Handicapped, and the Riding Team in a Therapeutic Riding Program. Durango, Colorado: Engle Therapy,


______. Therapeutic Riding vols. I and II. Durango, Colorado: Engle

Therapy, 1998.

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McDaniel, Isabella. NARHA Strides magazine, Winter 1998, http:// www.narha.org.

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Sivewright, M., Thinking Riding, London: J. A. Allen, 1984.

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Vlachos, Anna. A History of the Windsor-Essex Therapeutic Riding

Association, 1996.

Personal Communications:

Ainsworth, Gayle. Telephone interview by author. 15 June, 2002.

Avolio, Denise. Email to author. 10 July, 2002.

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17 Marching Bootless

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“No, seriously, what did it accomplish?” Lou persisted. “What good did this do—taking off their shoes?”

“It isn’t so much what good it did,” Yusuf responded, “as what good it invited.”

“Okay, then, what good did it invite?”

Yusuf looked at Mei Li and Mike. “Do you want to speak to that?”

“Sure,” Mei Li said. She looked at Lou. “I’m not sure what good it invited, Mr. Herbert,” she began.

How does she know who I am? Lou wondered.

“But I know what happened—to Jenny,” she continued. “She decided on her own to enroll in the program. And I bet you wouldn’t have predicted that.”

“No,” Lou agreed, his eyebrows rising in surprise, “I can’t say that I would have.” Then he added, “How did that happen?”

“Well, after a few hours, we finally ended up at a mall. And Jenny ran into one of her friends. She started telling her what her parents had done to her and about this program they had tried to take her to. She mentioned that we worked for that program as well and that we had been following her for most of the day.

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Chapter 7. Believing

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GLOSSARY and abdomen. It uses a large magnet to polarize hydrogen atoms in the tissue, then monitors the summation of the spinning energies within living cells.

Multiple Sclerosis: A chronic neurodegenerative disease of the central nervous system with intermittent, progressive loss of the nerve sheath, myelin, not affecting peripheral nerves. Onset is usually in the third or fourth decade.

Muscular Dystrophy: A group of diseases characterized by progressive degeneration and/or loss of muscle fibers, without nervous system involvement.

NARHA: North American Riding for the Handicapped Association, P. O.

Box 33150, Denver, CO 80233, 800) 369-RIDE (7433), Fax: (303) 2524610, Email: narha@narha.org, website: http://www.narha.org

Neuromotor function: The brain’s ability to coordinate motor or muscle function.

Neuromusculoskeletal: Refers to objective factors which can be measured or observed such as range of motion, strength, reflexes, etc.; and subjective factors which cannot be measured or observed such as pain and stiffness.

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1. The Beginning

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The Beginning

SOME GIRLS DREAM OF BECOMING A MOM, but I wasn’t one of them. I wanted to play the piano ever since I was six years old and heard my Aunt Helen play Beethoven’s Moonlight Sonata.

I was nine when I started class piano lessons. In the beginning, I practiced at home on a cardboard keyboard my teacher gave me. I imagined a sound like Helen made. Dad eventually brought home a turn-of-the-century “upright grand” piano—a pizza-parlor cast-off covered in deep blue paint. When I first pressed down on the ebony and ivory keys, the sound I made resonated all the way through my bones.

That same year, one of my teachers at Byron Kilbourn Elementary School decided I was gifted. Had I attended fifth grade at Milwaukee’s magnet school for gifted children, there would have been accelerated math, special study projects, even violin lessons, to go along with class piano I’d just started.

We visited the magnet school, but my parents wanted to think it over before enrolling me. Dad was attending Marquette

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4 Power, Privilege, Race, and Belonging

Ross, Howard J.; Tartaglione, JonRobert Berrett-Koehler Publishers ePub

I imagine one of the reasons people cling to their hates so stubbornly is because they sense, once hate is gone, they will be forced to deal with pain.


The past is never dead. It’s not even past.


Our Munchester Industries trio, Joan, Barry, and Fatima, represent the intersectionality of our identities in a powerful way. Joan is white, and also a woman and Christian; any one of these identities might predominate, depending upon the circumstances she finds herself in. The same holds for Barry’s white, Jewish, gay, and male identities, and for Fatima’s Muslim and female identities, as well as her status as a woman of color. All of them are significant, but none more so than race.

Much has been and will be written about why Donald Trump was able to pull off one of the greatest electoral upsets in history, but underneath all the very complex narratives that one can tell about the election, there is a very simple one that is inescapable: this election was a testament to how race is an aspect of our lives that simultaneously generates a profound experience of belonging and is the essence of “us versus them.” It also is a reflection on the dynamics of power and privilege that exist within our historical racial hierarchy. What do the voting patterns that we saw in the 2016 election, patterns that have been relatively consistent for almost forty years, tell us about belonging in America by race? Are we even one country when it comes to racial attitudes? It’s fair to say that race in America has historically been a domain where our sense of bonding and bridging has been more unhealthy than healthy.

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GLOSSARY numbing of responsiveness to the environment, exaggerated startle response, guilt feelings, impairment of memory, and difficulty in concentration and sleep.

Precautions: Physical or mental conditions which limit an individual’s participation in an equine assisted program.

Proprioception: The mechanism involved in the self-regulation of posture and movement through stimuli originating in receptors imbedded in the joints, tendons, muscles and internal ear (labyrinth). The perception of internal bodily conditions, such as contraction or stretching of muscles, bending, and straightening.

Proprioceptive: Capable of receiving stimuli originating in internal tissue.

Rainbow reins: Reins with bilateral bands of color, enabling the instructor to tell the rider which color to hold for the proper length of rein to carry out various maneuvers, including turning, stopping, backing, and trotting.

Range of Motion: The degree of free, unrestricted motion found in each joint in the body.

Scoliosis: A lateral curvature of the spine, predominantly congenital.

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Becoming People Smart

Silberman, Mel Berrett-Koehler Publishers ePub

While some kinds of abilities remain stable or even decline as you age, your ability to be people smart can grow continuously. That’s the good news. The bad news is, it won’t be easy. We adults are often not open to change. If you don’t believe this, try this simple experiment:

Fold your arms without thinking. Now, fold them the opposite way so that you switch which arm is on top. Feel awkward? You bet. Well, stay that way for a minute. Now, cross your legs without thinking about it. Yep, the upper part of your body is still uncomfortable but your lower part is nice and comfortable. Now cross your legs the opposite way. Your whole body is now out of your comfort zone. Now go back to the way you normally fold your arms and cross your legs. Feel better? That’s the real you. It’s comfortable to do things in familiar ways.

For better or worse, we have gotten used not only to folding our arms and crossing our legs in certain ways, but to relating to other people in certain ways. And it will be uncomfortable to change.

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6 The Deep Choice That Determines Influence

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“So what’s this something deeper?” I asked curiously.

“What I’ve already introduced to you—self-deception,” Bud replied. “Whether I’m in or out of the box.”

“Okay,” I said slowly, wanting to know more.

“As we’ve been talking about, no matter what we’re doing on the outside, people respond primarily to how we’re feeling about them on the inside. And how we’re feeling about them depends on whether we’re in or out of the box concerning them. Let me illustrate that point further with a couple of examples.

“About a year ago, I flew from Dallas to Phoenix on a flight that had open seating. While boarding, I overheard the boarding agent say that the plane was not sold out but that there would be very few unused seats. I felt lucky and relieved to find a window seat open with a vacant seat beside it about a third of the way back on the plane. Passengers still in need of seats continued streaming down the aisle, their eyes scanning and evaluating the desirability of their dwindling seating options. I set my briefcase on the vacant middle seat, took out that day’s paper, and started to read. I remember peering over the top corner of the paper at the people who were coming down the aisle. At the sight of body language that said my briefcase’s seat was being considered, I spread the paper wider, making the seat look as undesirable as possible. Do you get the picture?”

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PeopleSmart Skill 8

Silberman, Mel Berrett-Koehler Publishers ePub

If you never budge, don’t expect a push.


It’s often good advice to be yourself. If you are in your fifties, you would not pass as a cool teenager in the company of adolescents. If you are a formal person, you would probably look and feel ridiculous being flamboyant. It’s hard to pretend to be the kind of person you aren’t, and it’s often counterproductive. You lose your genuineness and dampen the many strengths you’ve taken a lifetime to develop. You also confuse other people who know you for who you are and are disconcerted when you behave differently.202

Nevertheless, high PQ people know that there are times when it’s necessary to shift gears. They don’t change with the winds like most politicians but they appreciate that when things are stuck, behaving in new ways can get things moving again. The Bible provides interesting cases in point:

The Biblical Jacob represents an intriguing example of someone with many personal strengths who had difficulty shifting gears. The younger twin brother of Esau, Jacob pretended, at his mother’s urging, to be Esau so that his nearly blind father, Isaac, would bestow upon him the blessing of inheritance. If he had not done so, Esau, the firstborn but of questionable character, would have succeeded Isaac. At the same time, Jacob’s deceit created a nearly fatal estrangement from his brother Esau. To his credit, Jacob did well with his responsibility. He spiritually wrestled with the angel of God and survived. He became a vital link in the transmission of the Biblical covenant between God and the Israelites. Through his two wives, Leah and Rachel, and his concubines, he had twelve sons who became the heads of the Twelve Tribes of Israel. However, his own life was marked by anguish and pain, especially over the apparent death of his favorite son, Joseph, who, in fact, was sold into slavery by his jealous brothers. The tragedy occurred because Jacob did not learn from his own childhood experience of sibling rivalry and gave his favorite son a “coat of many colors” and a special place in his heart.203

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4. Height and Weight

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Sam blew bubbles, but had trouble with the cards. She showed him a card with a picture of a hamburger on it that day.

“What’s this, Sam?” she asked.

He walked around the speech therapist, looked at the card, and said nothing.

“What’s this, Sam?” she repeated.

He started wandering away.

“Can you tell me what this is, Sam?” she repeated.

“I’m sorry,” I whispered to her, pointing at the picture.

“But he’s never seen one of those before, let alone eaten one. I don’t think he even knows the word hamburger.”

“Oh, well,” she said, putting the card down. “We try to get him to learn new words, too, not just say the words he knows.”

Eventually, I learned all of the Rules by violating them one by one.

Height and Weight

“Hi, Mom. It’s me,” I telephoned.

“Hi, you,” she replied. Sometimes hearing her voice was like stepping into a steaming, hot bath. My tension and worries evaporated. I was so glad that Mom and Dad returned early from Saudi Arabia. After Iraq invaded Kuwait in late 1990,

Western newspapers claimed World War III was on the horizon. Chris and I, and our other sisters, Karen and Teresa, begged my parents to come home. Mom and Dad didn’t understand our concerns. I was surprised Karen couldn’t convince them that Saudi state-owned media was downplaying the invasion. But, within days of our panicked, trans-Atlantic phone calls, hundreds of F-16s flew in all night long over the compound where Mom and Dad lived. The next morning, Mom

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10 Choosing War

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“I was raised,” Yusuf began, “in a village of rock-walled homes in the hills on the western edge of Jerusalem. The village, called Deir Yassin, had been my family’s home for at least two centuries. But that all ended early on the morning of April 9, 1948, at the height of the Arab-Jewish fighting surrounding the establishment of Israel. I was just five years old at the time. I remember being awakened by shouting and gunfire. Our village was being attacked by what I later learned were members of a Jewish underground military group. My father grabbed me from bed and thrust me and my two sisters into my parents’ room. He then pulled a rifle from under his mattress and, pulling on his boots, ran out of the house. ‘Stay inside!’ he yelled to us. ‘Don’t come out for anyone, you hear? Until I return, God willing.’

“Those were the last words I ever heard my father speak. When it was over and we left the protection of our stone walls, bodies and exploded body parts littered the streets. My father was among the dead.”

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