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EIGHT Navigating Through, Below, or Away from the Glass

Reynolds, Marcia Berrett-Koehler Publishers ePub

When it comes to making important career decisions, many of my female clients start our coaching relationship by saying, “I’m not sure I want to be vice president” or “If I’m going to be CEO, it might as well be for my own company.” Are they giving up? On the surface, you would think these women would fight for top leadership positions regardless of the difficulties. They love a good challenge. They like visibility and recognition. They prefer leading rather than being told what to do. They want to make a significant contribution that provides meaning for their employees as well as for themselves. If they were coached to see the options available to them more clearly, would they make different career decisions? Even when they decide that leaving is the best choice, they still need to identify where they want to go next and how to get there. Helping my clients verbalize their frustrations and desires often leads them to different conclusions and action plans from what they brought to our first conversation.

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7 Relationships: Endlessly Entangled

Wheatley, Margaret J. Berrett-Koehler Publishers ePub


Albert Einstein described our feelings of separateness as “a kind of optical delusion of consciousness. This delusion is a kind of prison for us, restricting us to our personal desires and affection for a few persons nearest to us.

Our task must be to free ourselves from this prison by widening the circle of understanding and compassion to embrace all living creatures and the whole of nature in its beauty. Nobody is able to achieve this completely, but the striving for such achievement is in itself a part of the liberation and a foundation for inner security.”17

Yet Einstein struggled his entire life with the entangled nature of this universe, a world where separateness is indeed an illusion. Einstein could not accept what quantum scientists were discovering, a world where seemingly discrete, separate particles acted as one, even when distant from each other. In rejecting this new quantum reality, Einstein labeled it as “spooky action at a distance.” First proved in 1964 with Bell’s theorem and then in subsequent experiments that continue to this day, quantum reality has been well established. When two separate particles are correlated and then separated, they continue to act as one. If one changes, the other does so instantly, faster than the speed of light. Entanglement, the term used in physics, is now accepted as the defining characteristic of this universe, not just at the quantum level but at the macroscopic world that we inhabit.18 “The universe,” as astronomer Sir James Jeans noted, “begins to look more like a great thought than like a great machine.”19

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Dangerous Substances: Tobacco, Alcohol, and Drugs

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date ____________________________

DANGEROUS SUBSTANCES: Tobacco, Alcohol, and Drugs

Tobacco products, drugs, and alcohol can do serious, long-lasting damage to a person’s health. The vocabulary words in this lesson relate to the use of these substances.

Study the word forms shown on the chart. Then circle the word that correctly completes each sentence below.

Verb Noun



addiction, addict



abused, abuse


alcohol, alcoholism, alcoholic


depend dependency





intoxicated, intoxicating





recovered, recovering


1. Paolo visited Marshall High School to speak about the dangers of alcohol ( abuse / abusive ).

2. Paolo himself had once had a problem with alcohol ( dependent / dependency ).


He was ( recovery / recovering ) from the disease of ( alcoholism / alcoholic ).

4. “Don’t get in the ( habit / habitual ) of drinking every day,” Paolo warned the students.

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5 Kitchen Talk

Adams, Marilee Berrett-Koehler Publishers ePub

It was early in the morning when Grace found the Choice Map I had stuck on the refrigerator door the night before. As usual, I awoke to the smell of fresh coffee and made my way downstairs to the kitchen. Grace is always up before me. She’s one of those people who wakes up cheerful and enthusiastic about each new day. I’m just the opposite and I know it sometimes puts Grace on edge. She claims that I’m like a bear coming out of hibernation in the morning. I don’t think I’m quite that bad, but I don’t exactly start the day off with a song in my heart.

As I entered the kitchen, I found Grace standing in front of the refrigerator with her back to me. She appeared to be engrossed with the Choice Map. I was immediately worried about what she might say. I was pretty sure she’d start probing and I’d have to tell her the whole thing — about my trouble at work and all the rest of it. That would lead to how I’d gotten the Choice Map and why I’d posted it on the refrigerator. Then I might have to tell her about why Alexa had referred me to Joseph and that could turn into an emotional minefield.

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Instill Commitment, Not Greed

Manz, Charles C. Berrett-Koehler Publishers ePub

For the kingdom of heaven is like a landowner who went out early in the morning to hire laborers for his vineyard. After agreeing with the laborers for the usual daily wage, he sent them into his vineyard. When he went out about nine o’clock he saw others standing idle in the marketplace; and he said to them, “You also go into the vineyard, and I will pay you whatever is right.” So they went. When he went out again about noon and about three o’clock, he did the same. And about five o’clock he went out and found others standing around; and he said to them, “Why are you standing here idle all day?” They said to him, “Because no one has hired us.” He said to them, “You also go into the vineyard.” When evening came, the owner of the vineyard said to his manager, “Call the laborers and give them their pay, beginning with the last and then going to the first.” When those hired about five o’clock came, each of them received the usual daily wage. Now when the first came, they thought they would receive more; but each of them also received the usual daily wage. And when they received it, they grumbled against the landowner, saying, “These last worked only one hour, and you have made them equal to us who have borne the burden of the day and the scorching heat.” But he replied to one of them, “Friend, I am doing you no wrong; did you not agree with me for the usual daily wage? Take what belongs to you and go; I choose to give to this last the same as I give to you. Am I not allowed to do what I choose with what belongs to me? Or are you envious because I am generous?” (Matt. 20: 1–15)

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Chapter Seven: Kicking the thieves out of your house

Izzo, John B. Berrett-Koehler Publishers ePub

Now that we have explored the five thieves of happiness and identified who they are, we turn to the important task of keeping them out of our life. It is helpful to think of our internal mind as a house. Because our inner mind is the home of our happiness, our main task is deciding who comes into that house. In the same way, the great task of society is to make conscious choices about what parts of our nature we will allow to rule our global house.

As bold as this is to suggest, if we can keep these five thieves from ruling our house, happiness and a deep sense of well-being are practically guaranteed. These thieves represent the major sources of suffering for us individually and collectively. Recall from the beginning of the book that the mind is the temple of our happiness. If we can rule this inner world as a benevolent and wise lord, happiness will come.

Now, of course, there is only one thing to do with thieves: throw them out of the house, right? Well, that may not be as simple as it seems. In the physical world, actual thieves are not inside you, so throwing them out is relatively straightforward: catch them, arrest them, and throw them in jail. But the problem with the thieves of happiness is that they are not outside us; they are inside.

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Kevin Cashman Berrett-Koehler Publishers ePub

In preparing to write this book, I personally interviewed 62 CEOs and presidents of corporations. The purpose of these meetings was to solicit their views regarding our leadership models and to have them challenge our viewpoints. Additionally, we conducted a survey to discover which areas of mastery corporate leaders perceived as most relevant to their leadership effectiveness and which areas they viewed as the most challenging. The results of our interviews were very clear-cut: 75 percent of the CEOs and presidents saw Personal Mastery as the most relevant to their leadership effectiveness, while 67 percent saw Interpersonal Mastery as the second most relevant. However, 92 percent of them selected Resilience Mastery as the most challenging personally.

For most leaders I meet, balancing work and home life still is a lofty, never-achieved goal. Yet, the more I encounter the time-oriented, mechanistic formula of work/life balance (i.e., working a certain number of hours, exercising four times a week, spending a certain number of evenings a week with family), the less useful and relevant I find it. Although each day brings nearly impossible demands on our time, with too many meetings, obligations, and 24/7 connectivity in a global marketplace, it is our resilience and energy that are stressed daily, not the clock. Most days begin like a sprint and then turn into a triathlon of meetings, e-mails, and presentations. Let’s face it, “time is a finite resource.” We get 24 hours, no matter how we carve it up. However, shifting our focus from time management to energy leadership can allow us to discover our own unique formula for sustained energy and resilience throughout each day. When we are calm and focused, we are more on top of the demands of leadership. Conversely, when our energy is low or manic, everything seems on top of us.

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Other Mind-Centered Emotional Discipline Choices

Manz, Charles C. Berrett-Koehler Publishers ePub
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8 Are We Lost?

Wheatley, Margaret J. Berrett-Koehler Publishers ePub


Are we lost?
If we were, how would we know?
When people are lost in the wilderness, they move through predictable stages. The first reaction is to deny they are lost.

They know where they are, they just can’t find a familiar sign. They convince themselves that everything’s okay. They still know where they are going; the maps are still correct. But gradually, confronted with a growing number of strange and unfamiliar sights, anxiety seeps in. They speed up their activities, fueled by a sense of urgency, needing to verify as quickly as possible that they are not lost. Those lost on a mountain walk faster; those lost in a failing project work faster and harder. Yet in spite of these urgent actions, doubt and uncertainty creep in. People become angry and impatient, pushing aside any information that doesn’t confirm their map. They’re desperate to find any scrap of information that proves they know where they are. They reject all other information, even that which would help them get unlost.

There comes a point when people are overcome by fear and panic—they can no longer deny that they’re lost. Stressed and scared, their brains stop working. They can’t think straight, so every action they take is senseless, only creating more exhaustion. Confused and panicked, people search frantically for any little sign that’s familiar, any small shred of evidence that makes them feel unlost, that signals their maps are still correct. But they are lost, so this strategy fails and they continue to deteriorate.

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Kevin Cashman Berrett-Koehler Publishers ePub

The north shore of Lake Superior is really an awesome sight. The lake is an inland sea unlike any other—the largest body of fresh water in the world. Cool, fresh pine scents the air. Black, rocky cliffs form an imposing backdrop as they disappear into the water’s edge. Waterfalls tumble down rivers rushing to their destinations. As calming and refreshing as Superior is, she also is dangerously unpredictable. At a moment’s notice, her calm temperament can become a raging force, swallowing huge ships whenever she pleases. Remember Gordon Lightfoot’s song about the Edmund Fitzgerald? The Edmund Fitzgerald was one of her victims.

Growing up in Minnesota, at a young age I received serious warnings about the Great Lake from my elders: “You can only survive the cold water of Superior for four or five minutes.” In the spirit of adventure (some might say the spirit of foolishness), I decided to swim the lake.

Donning my wet suit (I’m not completely crazy), I entered the water. As I dove in, the cold water overwhelmed me. It felt breathtakingly, bone-achingly cold. In the first couple of minutes, I believed all the advice of my upbringing. I was sure I could not handle the cold. Then the water in my wet suit started to warm up and everything changed. I became intensely aware of being the only human in this huge watery mass. As I swam near the shore, I closely watched the spears of light passing through the gentle waves. When I swam further into its depth, the blackness of unbelievably deep drop-offs appeared and revealed the lake’s immensity. After a short distance, new underwater cliffs and rock formations came into view. Swimming from point to point, I met with an odd mix of feelings. Ecstatic one moment and fearful the next, I sensed that all my emotions were possible and heightened as I explored during this first-time experience.

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Facts About Fabrics 2

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date ____________________________


A. Review the meanings of natural and

synthetic in the last lesson’s puzzle clues.

Then classify each fabric listed in the box under the proper heading below. Use a dictionary if you need help.

cotton  nylon  wool  rayon  polyester  silk  leather  plastic











B. Read each sentence. Describe an article of clothing appropriate for each situation. Explain the properties—or features—of this garment that would suit the situation. Use some of the words from this lesson and the last one.

1. It is raining hard but is not very cold.


2. It is warm outside, and you are going to be exercising.

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Hawkins, Terry Berrett-Koehler Publishers ePub
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Chapter 3: The Flame of Passion: Renewing Our Calling

Leider, Richard J. Berrett-Koehler Publishers ePub

New Elder
Mike McGuire

When we get our first job in our late teens or early 20s,we know very little about ourselves. We may be aware of our dreams and ambitions;we may have a sense of what we like best to do and what we do best—our gifts and talents— and we may know something about how to express those gifts insofar as our schooling has revealed them. But in terms of vocation—of what we are really called to do in the world—most of us are basically clueless. We have very little idea of what we’re really here for,of what sort of work truly fulfills us,of what we’re doing with our lives beyond earning a living,as opposed to making a life.

Unless we’re one of the lucky ones,like architect Mike McGuire.

Right after his 50th birthday,Richard and his wife, Sally,spent about a year restoring a house on a river they loved, the St.Croix. At times, the restoration was far from restorative—at least to their mental and emotional health. All the detail—windows,floors,the knobs on the cabinets in the kitchen—had to be considered and reconsidered. At times,Richard and Sally felt more like contractors than coaches. And yet—and in no small part thanks to their architect,Mike McGuire, it turned out to be worth it. Thanks to Mike’s help,the end result is a place where Sally and Richard feel they belong and where they feel a sense of belonging.

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Principle 3: Write Your Risk Scripts

Treasurer, Bill Berrett-Koehler Publishers ePub


As they exited the aqua-theater, one of the most frequent compliments the audience gave us divers was that we “made it look easy.” While easy may have been the result, the word doesn’t adequately account for all the rehearsing and fine tuning needed to make the show appear that way. The diving show was extremely well choreographed. Though the audience didn’t know it, each dive, each moment on stage, and each bow of gratitude for the audience’s applause, was exhaustively rehearsed. Even our smiles were rehearsed! With our index finger, we’d swipe off the saliva from our top teeth, and tuck the upper lip against the whites of our teeth. From the audience it looked like we were smiling, but if you were on the stage with us you’d swear that we had had our top lips removed.

To further enhance the easy look of our performance, both the divers and the announcer regimentally followed a tightly defined script. Scripting was especially important during the comedy portion of the show because we had to dupe the audience for the comedy routine to work. This vaudevillian trickery involved the announcer, one diver as a “straightman,” and another diver planted as an unruly audience member. Here is how the setup was choreographed:

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CHAPTER 11 Cultivating Gratitude

Senn, Larry Berrett-Koehler Publishers ePub

To speak gratitude is courteous and pleasant, to enact gratitude is generous and noble, but to live gratitude is to touch Heaven.


I recently watched a YouTube video called “The Power of Words”—one that more than 25 million other people had also watched.19 It shows a man sitting on a city sidewalk with a tin can for donations and a sign reading, I’M BLIND PLEASE HELP. Passersby come and go, but very few make a donation.

Then a woman comes along. She looks at the man’s sign, thinks for a minute, then flips it over and writes a new message on it.

Almost immediately, the donations dramatically increase. The blind man is both confused and amazed to hear the shower of coins landing at his feet and in his can. When the woman returns later in the day, the man asks her, “What did you do to my sign?”

She replies, “I wrote the same—but in different words.”

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