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Stop Worrying

Manz, Charles C. Berrett-Koehler Publishers ePub

Therefore I tell you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat or what you will drink, or about your body, what you will wear. Is not life more than food, and the body more than clothing? Look at the birds of the air; they neither sow nor reap nor gather into barns, and yet your heavenly father feeds them. Are you not of more value than they? And can any of you by worrying add a single hour to your span of life? And why do you worry about clothing? Consider the lilies of the field, how they grow; they neither toil nor spin, yet I tell you, even Solomon in all his glory was not clothed like one of these…. So do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will bring worries of its own. Today’s trouble is enough for today. (Matt. 6: 25–29, 34)

Do you make a habit of worry? Do you dedicate a great deal of attention and energy to worrying about failures of the past or concerns of the future? What is your honest appraisal of what you accomplish when you worry? What are the fruits of your worry labor? If the first step to becoming an effective leader of others is to become an effective self-leader, is being a persistent worrier the mark of a good leader?

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Now it’s your turn

Wheatley, Margaret J. Berrett-Koehler Publishers PDF

now it’s your turn

The first part of this book was written in the hope that you would feel encouraged and even excited to begin conversations. In this section, Part

Three, you will find twelve conversation starters. Everything in this section is offered to you as a resource for conversations that you will host. Each conversation starter is a short essay framed around a question, and supported by stories, quotes, poems, and my own comments.

But the work is now yours to do. Nothing much will change in the world if you keep these conversation starters to yourself. I hope you will find them provocative enough to share them with friends and colleagues. Indeed, I hope you will now be the conversation starter.

I encourage you to begin a conversation with whatever issue or dream is most relevant to you and your friends. But I also hope that you will, either now or later, try out these specific conversation starters.

I expect you’ll be surprised by the quality and depth of conversation they create. I know you’ll be surprised at how easy it is to move into rich and meaningful conversations. And I hope you’ll be inspired and surprised by what you learn from your conversation partners.

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8 Reality

The Arbiner Institute Berrett-Koehler Publishers ePub

“Did you hear that, Carol?” Lou said chasing after her out to the parking lot. “That girl, Jenny—you know, the one who was yelling and carrying on this morning—she took off running.”

“Where?”

“Here, out in the streets. She just took off running across town.”

Carol stopped. “Oh, how terrible,” she said, looking up the street. “Poor girl. She wasn’t wearing any shoes. Do you think we should try to find her?”

“I’m sure Yusuf and his team are handling it,” he said.

Before now, Carol would have thought this a sarcastic dig, but she thought she heard a hint of respect in Lou’s voice.

Lou glanced at his watch. “Listen, Carol, I have to make some calls.”

“Now?”

“Yes. The situation at the office is kind of a mess. I have to check in with a couple of people.”

“Can’t you do that later?”

“They’ll probably be gone home by the time we’re out this evening. I’m going to have to call now.”

“You never worried about calling them at home on Friday nights before,” she said, coyly. “Why now?”

Lou knew what Carol was searching for, but he didn’t want her to have the satisfaction of knowing he was actually considering what Avi and Yusuf had said. Avoiding a direct answer to her question, he said, “Well, I’d rather not call them at home if I can help it. Not with all the turmoil everyone’s in. Don’t want to add to it, I suppose.”

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Six The Earth Voice: Gut Instinct, Authority, and Grounding

McAfee, Barbara Berrett-Koehler Publishers ePub

 

 

Lower your voice and
strengthen your argument.

Lebanese Proverb

We convince by
our presence.

Walt Whitman

 

The following are examples of the earth voice. Can you hear them in your imagination?

The resonant growl of James Earl Jones’s voice slithers from behind the Darth Vader mask in Star Wars.

A Saint Bernard barks to guard his territory.

A group of Neanderthals discuss hunting strategy around the fire in a series of agitated grunts and gestures.

A mother bear warns an intruder away from her cubs.

An inebriated barrel-chested man sings as he carouses down a wintry street at three in the morning.

Johnny Cash kicks off “Ring of Fire” before a roaring crowd.

Arnold Schwarzenegger’s character in the movie The Terminator quips, “I’ll be back.”

The earth voice comes from your gut, grounding your words in your body. The deepest and darkest of the five voices, it vibrates in your torso as a groan, a growl, a yawn. Making the deep sounds of the earth voice requires you to relax, open your throat, and sense the pull of gravity on your body. Many of us make these sounds instinctively as we wake up in the morning or settle in for the night. People who are “down to earth” or “rock solid” frequently speak with a healthy dose of this sound in their voices.

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CHAPTER 6 Organizational Application

Smith, Hyrum W. Berrett-Koehler Publishers ePub

Culture is the deeper level of basic assumptions and beliefs that are shared by members of an organization.

—EDGAR SCHEIN, ORGANIZATIONAL CULTURE AND LEADERSHIP

The preceding chapters have focused on you as an individual. We have talked about your Belief Window and whether you are meeting your needs over time. But each one of us is more than just an individual. We are members of a number of organizations, from families to corporations. Whether you are an employee striving to make a meaningful contribution, an executive trying to steer the ship, or the head of a family, this chapter is for you.

I don’t think anyone sets out to “meet payroll” or to build an organization like we did at Franklin Quest, where literally thousands of families rely on the decisions you make every day. But we did build that organization, and we did assume the responsibility—in partnership with everyone we worked with—to serve our customers, to meet payroll, and to make a difference in people’s lives.

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Contents

, The Center for Courage & Renewal; Francis, Shelly L. Berrett-Koehler Publishers ePub

Foreword

Parker J. Palmer

Preface: A Word from the Voice Between the Lines

It Takes Courage

Introduction: Why Courage?

1 What Is the Courage Way?

2 The Inner Work of Leadership

3 Have You Met Your True Self?

4 Courage Takes Trust

5 Reflection in Community

6 The Courage to Care for True Self

7 The Courage to Answer Your Calling

8 The Courage to Question and Listen

9 The Courage to Hold Tension in Life-Giving Ways

10 The Courage to Choose Wisely

11 The Courage to Connect and Trust in Each Other

12 The Courage to Stay or to Leave

Notes

Quote Sources

Recommended Reading

Books by the Center for Courage & Renewal

Books by Parker J. Palmer

Gratitudes

Index

About the Center for Courage & Renewal

About the Coauthor

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8. Breaking Cycles of Mistreatment

Caprino, Kathy Berrett-Koehler Publishers ePub

As long as you think that the cause of your problem
is “out there”—as long as you think that anyone
or anything is responsible for your suffering—
the situation is hopeless. It means that you are forever
in the role of victim, that you’re suffering in paradise
.

BYRON KATIE
Loving What Is

* STEP BACK TO EXPLORE Boundaries in need of strengthening.

* LET GO of your belief in your powerlessness.

* SAY YES! to developing healthy boundaries.

* BREAKTHROUGH “I am treated with love and respect.”

* Anne: My life has been a full and extraordinary one, with many blessings, including my four children and eight beloved grandchildren. But I’ve had a fair share of adversity, too. My father adored me, but he was an abusive man—physically, verbally, and emotionally—and he was particularly cruel to my mother. She resented me terribly because I was spared most of his abuse, and because he loved me. Mother was full of rage and jealousy and treated me like a hostile invader. My father had a violent temper, abused my mother physically, neglected her emotional needs, and cheated on and deceived her, yet she stayed and endured his treatment for sixty-five years.

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10. Plato and the Art of Justice

Jules Evans New World Library ePub

ALEXANDER IS A THIRTY-FOUR-YEAR-OLD PLATONIST, living in Dallas, Texas. He admits: “Dallas is not really the most philosophical city in the world.” As a young man, Alexander searched far and wide to try to find something more to believe in than capitalism. He decided the spiritual approach that made most sense to him was Islam, and in particular Sufism. He heard about a school in Yemen offering Arabic classes so, in his mid-twenties, he quit his job and travelled to Tarim, in the Hadhramaut Valley in Yemen, and enrolled at the Dar al-Mustafa religious school. The school taught Arabic and Islamic philosophy in a monastic environment. The five hundred students, including many foreign students, slept in dormitories together, ate together, prayed five times a day together, and studied Islamic philosophy together. “It becomes a routine, part of your life, so that if you miss a prayer, it doesn’t feel right,” Alexander says. Tarim is the religious center of Yemen, but it’s still quite a bit smaller and poorer than Dallas. Yet Alexander loved the place:

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Video: Breathing Exercise

McAfee, Barbara Berrett-Koehler Publishers ePub

 

 

We often refuse to
accept an idea merely
because the tone of voice in
which it has been expressed
is unsympathetic to us.

Friedrich Nietzsche

 

Where does your voice live?

If you’re like most people, you think your voice is in your throat somewhere. Not so. Thinking your voice is located in your throat is like mistaking a saxophone reed for the whole saxophone. If you take that horn apart and play only the mouthpiece, it sounds ridiculous—like a duck with a deviated septum. The apparatus in your throat is just a small part of a much bigger and more splendid instrument.

From a purely technical standpoint, the sound of your voice begins with an impulse somewhere in your solar plexus. That impulse leads you to inhale and then send a flow of breath across your vocal cords, two little bands of mucous membrane in your throat area. These cords vibrate at somewhere between one hundred and one thousand vibrations per second. They work best when they are moist and relaxed and fed by a steady stream of air. The vocal cords are housed in your larynx. The front of this little box forms the Adam’s apple. In addition to housing your vocal cords, the larynx blocks food and liquid from getting into your lungs every time you swallow. (Put your fingers on your Adam’s apple and swallow to feel your larynx do its dance.)

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46. Think Like an Owner Even If You’re Not One

Jim Donovan New World Library ePub

In his wonderful book Visionary Business, Marc Allen, bestselling author and the publisher and owner of New World Library, wrote that one of the benefits of profit sharing was that he didn’t have to worry about cutting costs throughout the company because his employees did it for him.

Since they had a vested interest in the success and profitability of the company, the employees themselves looked for ways to save money and improve the business. This idea, along with the way people are treated there, has made New World Library one of the greatest successes in the publishing industry and Marc one of the most respected people in the business.

While you may or may not receive formal profit sharing, you are being paid by your employer and being given the privilege of working there. I use the word privilege because that’s what work is — a privilege. Your job, whatever it is, provides for you and your family. It supports your lifestyle, enables you to demonstrate your talents, and provides you (I hope) with an outlet for your creativity.

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Chapter 7. Home Sweet Home

Zack, Devora Berrett-Koehler Publishers ePub

Singletasking is for the workplace.

Singletasking is for all aspects of life.

Always do one thing less than you think you can do.

BERNARD MANNES BARUCH

I want you to have an inherently fulfilling, positive, rewarding, meaningful career. I just want you to be home when you’re at home. Singletask it, baby.

The high-tech TiVo Roamio device can record several television shows simultaneously, enabling users to watch live or recorded shows anywhere. Isn’t that wonderful?

Rather than highlighting the life-enhancing aspects of enabling consumers to never miss a show, however, a tongue-in-cheek campaign from 2014 featured users:

Crashing into a tree from distracted downhill skiing

Watching TiVo during a family therapy session

Being imprisoned for watching television in the Vatican

Even the promoters of this high-tech device see the downside of splitting attention.

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Principle 9: Trespass Continuously

Treasurer, Bill Berrett-Koehler Publishers ePub

144


Kurt Hahn was Adolph Hitler’s first political prisoner.1 In January 1933, one month after Hitler came to power, Hahn was jailed for openly challenging the Fuehrer’s actions. Hahn was the founder of the Salem School, a school that focused on character development through the use of experiential education techniques. Upon learning that Hitler had sent a congratulatory telegram to five storm troopers who had murdered a young Communist by stomping him to death, Hahn had written a letter to all Salem alumni, telling those with ties to the SS to “terminate their allegiance either to Hitler or to Salem.”2 For thumbing his nose to Hitler, Hahn was imprisoned. He was released a few months later, but being of Jewish origin and having just had a foreshadow of Germany’s future, Hahn fled to Great Britain. Within a year of arriving, he set up a new school in Scotland: The Gordonstoun School.

Like the earlier school, Gordonstoun used innovative, experiential approaches to education. Hahn believed that students benefit most when all aspects of their being are developed: mental, physical, emotional, and spiritual. Thus, the curriculum included rigorous study, strenuous exercise, periods of extended silence, craftwork, art and music, and character development. In addition to their studies, students learned mountain rescue techniques, participated in the local fire brigade, and rowed lifeboats along the rugged Scottish seacoast. Hahn believed that every student has a “grand passion” and saw it as his aim to help them shed the “misery of unimportance.” He explained, “We are all better than we know; if only we can be brought to realize this, we might never settle for anything less.”3 The school became so successful that Britain’s Prince Phillip, himself a Gordonstoun alumnus, insisted that each of his three sons, princes Charles, Andrew, and Edward, attend the school.

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Chapter Three Right at Work

Shapiro, David A. Berrett-Koehler Publishers ePub

Most businesspeople are interested in doing the right thing—up to a point. Most of us, on the job, adhere to a code of business ethics. But this code is usually pretty businesslike; we might reasonably question whether it’s ethical. When the dual demands of conscience and competition pull us in conflicting directions, competition often wins out. We justify our behavior by telling ourselves that everyone does it. Or that business is a special game with different rules for what’s acceptable. No doubt both of these responses are true. But what does that say about our code of business ethics? And what does it imply for the moral legacy we are leaving?81

In a perfect world, we’d never have to ask whether something was good or just good for business. In a perfect world, there would be a direct correspondence between people’s character and their success on the job. In a perfect world, there would be no rich slumlords, no sleazy but successful salespeople, no cruel and heartless corporate leaders. The perfect world would be a corporate world of instant karma: as soon as somebody did something underhanded, ruthlessly competitive, or downright illegal, his or her business would suffer. Organizations that refused to do the right thing would fail miserably; individuals who treated co-workers and customers unjustly would quickly find themselves out on the street.82

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9. Being More Interesting

Fleming, Carol Berrett-Koehler Publishers ePub

WHY KNOWLEDGE IS SMALL TALK GOLD

Rosie wanted to be taken more seriously. Her boyfriend’s circle of friends was in the hotel industry, and they would get together frequently to talk shop. They chatted while she sat completely silent, ignored. She told me that she just went blank; nothing would come out. “My brain freezes up when I’m with them. What’s wrong with me?” she asked me.

My mind flitted about various diagnostic possibilities for this situational mutism. I asked Rosie what other situations caused her to freeze up. There were none.

So, this just has to do with discussions about the hotel industry? Yes.

Has she taken any courses in hotel management? No.

Read any magazines from that business sector? No.

Attended any seminars or professional association meetings with the boyfriend? No.

Does she know anything about the industry? No.

Friends, I admit I was dumbfounded, and it took me a while to appreciate her dilemma. I hear her tell me she wants a diagnosis for her brain freeze when people talk about the hotel industry while admitting she doesn’t know jack about the hotel industry. I told her she was confusing a brain tumor with ignorance.

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Chapter 3: Chemical Triggers

Ya-Ling J. Liou Return to Health Press™ PDF

CHAPTER 3

Chemical Triggers of Everyday Pain

INJURY OR STRESS OF A CHEMICAL nature occurs when an area is overwhelmed with cellular waste or byproducts. There is a normal constant flow of cellular waste as the result of our daily metabolic activity. Just as we eat, drink and go to the bathroom on a daily basis, our cells are doing the same thing on a microscopic level. A backup of these waste byproducts can happen during inflammation because of a mechanical tissue injury as previously mentioned, but waste products can also accumulate without any physical injury, at all. This build-up can happen if there is either: (1) Too much cellular waste being produced too quickly;4 or (2)

Elimination of cellular waste is somehow compromised or too slow. Both of these things can happen when the body’s critical biochemical and metabolic processes are being stressed (causing more waste or garbage to result and accumulate) and/or if the

4. Occasionally the body has more “trash” to break down and get rid of. Allergens, viruses, and toxins in the environment can add to the “trash” load in our system.

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