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|James Steffen||Berrett-Koehler Publishers||ePub|
RAY SAID to Mary and Mike, Coach Eric told us how important it is to implement the Aligned Thinking tools. We appreciate your sharing your insights so generously and especially value the copy of your life purpose.
You can borrow whatever you want, Mary said. We borrowed freely from Coach and some of the people who helped us.
Well do that, Carol replied. On the way home, Carol and Ray agreed that the next morning they would devote the first two hours after church to answering the purpose question.
The following summer day dawned clear and turned into a glorious Sunday. The deck was a warm, peaceful place in the late morning. As planned, Carol and Ray created their own life purposes.
Thirty minutes later they compared purposes. They discovered they had both borrowed generously from Mike and Mary, with some variations. Carol proposed, I dont think its critical that our life purposes or missions be the same. I think we should agree its okay to be different.
Ray agreed and added, I suggest with differences, we ask how we can support the other person getting what they want.See All Chapters
|Marc Allen||New World Library||ePub|
CREATING A WORLD THAT WORKS FOR ALL
It is the intention of this course
to assist in the growth of a peaceful army
of visionaries, artists, entrepreneurs, businesspeople,
teachers, writers, activists, and leaders
who are transforming not only their own lives
but the whole world as well,
creating a world that works for all,
in an easy and relaxed manner,
a healthy and positive way,
in its own perfect time,
for the highest good of all.
We have all the tools we need now. The process remains a mystery, but we know how to set it in motion. We’ve already seen remarkable changes in our lives; now it’s time to create some remarkable changes in our world as well. The same magical tools that work to create the life of our dreams are the tools we can use to make the world a far better place when we leave it than when we arrived here.
The process to make major changes in the world is the same process we used to make major changes in our lives: First, we dare to dream of a world that works for all, then we imagine possibilities, and then we make plans and take the first small steps. We affirm the dream with the power of the spoken word, and we realize the dream with the power of the written word and committed action.See All Chapters
|Wilson Learning Library||Nova Vista Publishing||ePub|
If you want one year of prosperity, grow grain. If you want 10 years of prosperity, grow trees. If you want 100 years of prosperity, grow people.
In some ways, relationships with Amiables, the people in the ask-directed, people-directed quadrant of the Social Style matrix, can be among the most complex to understand and manage.
That may seem counter-intuitive. The first thoughts that come to mind when you think of amiability center on harmony, compatibility, and striving to make sure everybodys needs are well met and everybody is happy. But thats why relationships with these people can get complicated. Amiables want so much to keep their relationships with you running smoothly, theyll not always show it when things are actually running into trouble. When Amiables encounter pressure or conflict, you many not get many warning signs from them, and therefore your relationship may stall without your really knowing its happening. It may seem as if things are going along well between you, except that there seems to be an unexplained, persistent and unproductive lag in action steps and decision-making. And when you do notice the relationship is faltering, your Amiable acquaintance may not be letting you know why. Indeed, an Amiable may appear quite comfortable in a relationship with you, all the while being troubled by other aspects of the relationship, especially those pertaining to its connections to others. Its not unusual in a sales situation, for example, for an Amiable customer to give a salesperson clear indications a purchase agreement is imminent, but then continually delay the decision out of concern for what others in his or her company might think about the deal.See All Chapters
|Beverly Kaye||Berrett-Koehler Publishers||ePub|
The hiring process does not end when you land the job. You need to get on board effectively in the first months and then stay on board. Continually marketing yourself within your own organization is vital to your success and satisfaction.
Someone wanted you here. On your first day of work they said, “Here’s your badge [key, uniform, time card, ID, password, business card, cubicle]. Enjoy.”
Wait. What happened to the welcoming committee and the orientation? If the team or organization you joined has provided a wonderful welcome, a comprehensive orientation, and periodically checks on your happiness level, you are fortunate. But if they haven’t, don’t dismay and don’t wait. Pull yourself on board before you go overboard.
To get on board, you’ll need to understand the job requirements, the culture, the standards, the policies and procedures, the key players, the business, the mission, the vision, and the values. That’s a lot to learn.
The following checklist should start you thinking about what you need to know. (Note: Even if you’ve been in your organization for years, you might be able to get more on board.) 52See All Chapters
|David McNally||Berrett-Koehler Publishers||ePub|
The power of social media cannot be underestimated as a tool for personal brand building. At the same time, the hype associated with social media should be tempered by how you use these powerful digital tools. Personal brand building with social media tools is like learning to use a chain saw—if you don’t use it wisely, you may cut off the wrong limb. There is no question that these tools have created a whole new world of brand-building possibilities, unmatched in their power.
For those skilled in using social media tools and who are purposeful in their use, the results can be exhilarating. Others find social media to be intoxicating and the impact on their personal brand can be unpredictable and potentially arresting. To be a social media Luddite is a mistake. We are strong advocates of using social media tools for personal brand building.
Let’s be clear: We will not be providing you the ins and outs of how to use specific social media tools. We assume you’re already using these tools.
Interacting in the social media world is one of the tools in your personal brand-building tool bag. As we have discussed earlier in the book, consistency is paramount in building a strong brand. Without a concerted effort, it is easy to inadvertently create inconsistencies in the way one is perceived based on digital interactions and real-world interactions.See All Chapters
|Charles C. Manz||Berrett-Koehler Publishers||ePub|
The more you try to avoid suffering the more you suffer because smaller and more insignificant things begin to torture you in proportion to your fear of being hurt.
I must confess that the ideas in this chapter were the most difficult for me to work on. Why? Because the day I began to ponder them was September 11, 2001. I realize that 9/11 has been talked about and written about far and wide, and one more treatise about its place in history would not contribute much. Nevertheless, I believe it should be acknowledged, partly because of its vast impact on the emotional state of millions of people around the world, but perhaps even more so because of the dark challenge it poses regarding the idea that we can choose how we feel. What follows are some excerpts from what I originally wrote on 9/11.
As I sat down to begin work on these ideas I was confronted with a wave of difficult feelings to grapple with. Multiple U.S. planes had just been hijacked and turned into deadly weapons… on CNN I saw footage of an American jetliner crashing into one of the gigantic twin towers of the World Trade Center creating a huge explosion. The other tower had been hit in similar fashion just a few minutes earlier and was in flames. A little while later the huge twin towers,… housing thousands of civilian workers and visitors, both collapsed.See All Chapters
|Margaret J. Wheatley||Berrett-Koehler Publishers|
Can I be fearless?
Human history is filled with stories of countless people who have been fearless. If we look at our own families, perhaps going back several generations, we’ll find among our own ancestors those who also have been fearless. They may have been immigrants who bravely left the safety of home, veterans who courageously fought in wars, families who endured economic hardships, war, persecution, slavery, oppression, dislocation. We all carry within us this lineage of fearlessness.
But what is fearlessness? It’s not being free of fear, for fear is part of our human journey. Parker Palmer, an extraordinary educator and writer, notes:
Fear is so fundamental to the human condition that all the great spiritual traditions originate in an effort to overcome its effects on our lives. With different words, they all proclaim the same core message:
“Be not afraid.”
. . . It is important to note with care what that core teaching does and does not say. “Be not afraid” does not say that we should not have fears—and if it did, we could dismiss it as an impossible counsel of perfection. Instead, it says that we do not need to be our fears, quite a different proposition.See All Chapters
|Marshall J. Cook||Pauline Books and Media||ePub|
“Do not anticipate trouble or worry about
what may never happen. Keep in the sunlight.”
— Benjamin Franklin
Faith Healing and Positive Thinking
“Lose weight with ease. No diets, drugs, surgery, or exercise.”
Too good to be true?
Of course it is.
But we keep right on buying elastic belts and plastic suits and “all-natural metabolism enhancers” (uppers) to “magically melt the pounds and inches away—while you sleep!”
We keep right on wanting to believe, but heft springs eternal.
We teach our kids to “wish upon a star” and tell them that “wishing will make it so,” but at some point, we stop believing it—at least with the rational part of our minds. Unfortunately, many come to feel the same way about prayer. “I asked God to help me lose weight” (or quit drinking or find love or get a better job or heal my husband of his cancer…), “but nothing happened. Prayer doesn’t work.”
Yet Jesus tells us that if we but have faith the size of a mustard seed, we can move mountains.
Does positive thinking work?See All Chapters
|Leider, Richard J.||Berrett-Koehler Publishers||ePub|
|Deepak Malhotra||Berrett-Koehler Publishers||ePub|
It was not his real name, but everyone called him Big. The reason was quite obvious: he was big. He was by no means the largest mouse in the maze. He was not genetically predisposed to being as large as some mice are. But he was the strongest mouse in the maze. It was not even a contest—he was the strongest mouse any other mouse could have imagined. And he was big because he wanted to be big—and because he worked at it.
It is rare to see a mouse exercising. It is practically unheard of in the maze. There is no reason for it—obtaining cheese is hardly ever a test of strength. In any case, Big did not eat very much. While a mouse will typically eat any and all cheese that he can find, Big ate just enough to support his growth. There was often cheese left on the ground after Big completed his meals. This was strange to other mice. For them, a meal was over only when there was no more cheese left to eat.
Unlike others, Big never even went in search of food. He never had to do so. If he went to eat and found that the cheese had been moved, he wasn’t bothered. His daily workout involved enough running through the maze that he invariably ran into new piles of cheese every few hours. On the rare occasion that he did not find any cheese, he would simply not eat. His friends would ask him, “Why don’t you go look for cheese today?”See All Chapters
|Maren S. Showkeir||Berrett-Koehler Publishers||ePub|
You must learn to be still in the midst of activity
In the last stage of my journalism career, I was lucky enough to work for a newspaper that provided space in the office building for a weekly, hour-long yoga class and paid for a teacher. At 6 P.M. on Tuesday evenings, a dozen or so of us met in a designated conference room, then moved the furniture to create space for our mats.
The class was always in danger of being canceled if our numbers dropped too low. When I would troll my coworkers to look for recruits, I always emphasized the physical and mental benefits of practicing yoga postures. Knowing they were a cynical bunch, I would add, “Mark [Roberts, our teacher] sometimes talks a little woo-woo, but you don’t really have to pay attention to that part. Just let it wash over you.”
In actuality, I had no idea how thoroughly I was being soaked. I loved listening to Mark, most especially when he prepared us for savasana. He used exotic terms that I didn’t fully understand, such as pranayama and pratyahara and samadhi. The strange words fascinated me.See All Chapters
|The Arbiner Institute||Berrett-Koehler Publishers||ePub|
“Okay, first of all,” Lou began, “I asked whether it makes a difference in a conflict if one side is in the right and the other in the wrong. So I ask you again: doesn’t that matter?”
“Yes,” Yusuf replied, “it does matter. But not the way you think it does.”
“What is that supposed to mean?”
“Well, Lou,” Yusuf responded measuredly, “have you ever been in a conflict with someone who thought he was wrong?”
Lou thought of Cory and the boardroom meeting with his five mutinous executives.
“No,” he answered coolly. “But that doesn’t mean they’re not.”
“True,” Yusuf agreed. “But you see, no conflict can be solved so long as all parties are convinced they are right. Solution is possible only when at least one party begins to consider how he might be wrong.”
“But what if I’m not wrong!” Lou blurted.
“If you are not wrong, then you will be willing to consider how you might be mistaken.”
“What kind of twisted riddle is that?”
Yusuf smiled. “It only seems like a riddle, Lou, because we are so unaccustomed to considering the impact of what is below our words, our actions, and our thoughts. There are two ways to seize Jerusalem or to engage in almost any other strategy or behavior, as Avi discussed with you. Which means there is a way I can be wrong even if taking Jerusalem is the best—even the right—thing to do. If I don’t remain open to how I might be mistaken in this deeper way, I might live out my life convinced I was on the right side of a given conflict, but I won’t have found lasting solutions.See All Chapters
|Charles C. Manz||Berrett-Koehler Publishers||ePub|
There are only two ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle.
Some men see things as they are and ask why. I dream things that never were and say, why not?
—George Bernard Shaw
Norman Vincent Peale’s book The Power of Positive Thinking has received an amazing level of worldwide attention, selling over 20 million copies. In it he wrote:112
… change your mental habits to belief instead of disbelief. Learn to expect, not to doubt. In so doing you bring everything into the realm of possibility… (including) that which has seemingly been impossible.… When you expect the best, you release a magnetic force in your mind, which by a law of attraction tends to bring the best to you.… It is amazing how a sustained expectation of the best sets in motion forces which cause the best to materialize.47
I suspect it is fair to say that Peale’s popular book has been received by the public with a widely varying response. Some have considered the book to be a life-changing and revolutionary philosophy to live by. Others, with a more intellectual, scientific, and skeptical bent, have perhaps viewed Peale’s positive thinking philosophy as being largely unrealistic and unsupported rhetoric.See All Chapters
|Donald Meltzer||Harris Meltzer Trust||ePub|
As a science, psycho-analysis is committed to the discovery of the truth about the events in our own minds and also the truth about our own actions. To make public either of these clearly requires the overcoming of an immense anxiety, both persecutory and depressive. What we reveal to the “group” is probably the most terrifying; what hostage we give to our “enemies” is the most intimidating; but what we reveal to our “siblings” threatens to demonstrate the disparity of our internal objects and thus that we are “foster-” brothers and sisters at best. The loneliness consequent upon this realization is surely one of the great deterrents to revelation to colleagues of our actual behaviour in our consulting rooms. But first of all it deters us from discovering what we in fact do, as against what we think we do, wish we did, feel we ought to do or aspire to do. What follows is an attempt to report the monitoring of my work with my patients’ dreams and cannot be taken as a recommended method for anyone else. Its crudeness as a statement when compared with the great intricacy of what actually happens will immediately be apparent, but it is the best I can do at the moment. It may help other analysts to monitor and discover what they in fact do; it is of no importance whether this turns out to be similar or different from what I am able to report.See All Chapters
|Margaret J. Wheatley||Berrett-Koehler Publishers|
What is my faith in the future?
Where does the future come from? It often feels these days as if the future arrives from nowhere. Suddenly things feel unfamiliar, we’re behaving differently, the world doesn’t work the way it used to.
We’re surprised to find ourselves in this new place—it’s uncomfortable, and we don’t like it.
The future doesn’t take form irrationally, even though it feels that way.
The future comes from where we are now. It materializes from the actions, values, and beliefs we’re practicing now. We’re creating the future everyday, by what we choose to do. If we want a different future, we have to take responsibility for what we are doing in the present.
I have faith in the future because I know it’s not a predetermined path we’re obligated to walk down. We can change direction from here.
It requires critical thinking. We need to look thoughtfully at what’s going on, and decide what we want to do about it. Luckily, critical thinking is a skill easy to develop in all people. In Paulo Freire’s work with economically poor people, they became skilled thinkers when they saw how reading and analysis would give them the means to fight back against their poverty. People learn quickly when learning offers them the possibility of a better life.See All Chapters