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Writer and Witness, Healing Through Story

New World Library ePub

It is usually evening. People have come from far away, flown into a city and then driven to a comfortable retreat tucked somewhere in the surrounding countryside. We have said hello, unpacked in bare rooms, and nestled in. We’ve had supper and have begun social conversations discovering who we are. Now, the first council is called.

I have arranged the seating in a circle. There is a shawl spread in the center space, on the floor or on a low coffee table. There is a seven-day candle — a cylinder of glass, paraffin, and wick, that I order from a Catholic supply house. It will serve as our eternal flame, the light on the hearth, the reminder of campfire, and a tradition of story that trails behind us for thousands of years. We are the ones in our families and communities who seem to make sense of life through speaking and writing our histories as our lives unfold — journal writers, letter writers, readers. We have been laughing at supper sharing anecdotes; now there is a quiet expectancy as we come into the softly lit room that will house us in our collective time.

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Chapter 8 – Delivering the talk and feedback

Dee Clayton M-Y Books Ltd ePub

This chapter gives some pointers on delivering the talk on the day and how to approach it, including my views on PowerPoint. We also talk about the value of now being able to hear feedback in a balanced and helpful manner instead of having it tainted (often in a more negative light) by those pesky monkeys.

PowerPoint

Dont be like everyone else. Dont assume that everyone else is doing it right because often when it comes to PowerPoint they arent. Do use PowerPoint only to add to what you want to say.. Here are some tips to doing it well:

1. Consider whether you need to use it at all if you need to illustrate something often flip charts can be much more spontaneous and interactive

2. Ensure that each slide has a purpose. A great book to help you get the slides looking good, among other helpful tips, is Presentation Zen: Simple Ideas on Presentation Design and Delivery [Garr Reynolds]

3. Use a consistent look throughout the presentation whilst avoiding a company template that takes up half the screen with your logo before youve even started

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The New World

Jed McKenna Wisefool Press PDF

I thought it would be no problem to settle in to such a beautifully appointed and technologically sophisticated room for a week or two and just watch movies and musical performances, but it got old in the first hour...........

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Chapter Four Right in Love

Shapiro, David A. Berrett-Koehler Publishers ePub

Our moral legacy will be distinguished primarily by the manner in which we have treated others. Most of our moral obligations—some would say all—are obligations to other people. Doing the right thing, therefore, is going to be mainly a matter of doing right by those we come in contact with on a regular basis: our friends, family members, loved ones, and colleagues.109

But what makes it difficult to consistently treat others as we ought to treat them is that, often, our interests conflict. We want one thing, they want something else; or we both want the same thing at the same time and there’s not enough to go around. Balancing these conflicting interests and coming up with mutually satisfying solutions requires a creative sensitivity that’s hard to achieve. Lots of times, we get so wrapped up in our own needs and desires that we’re unable to appreciate different perspectives—perspectives that may enable us to do a better job of fulfilling our interpersonal obligations.110

All of us know what it feels like to be treated right by someone else. And, unfortunately, we all know what it feels like to be done wrong, too. But at least this means that we all have the necessary experience to distinguish between the two. The challenge, of course, is to determine what choices will ensure that the people we interact with will have the former, not the latter experience. Our moral legacy, after all, is in their hands. Its shape will ultimately be defined by their reactions to our treatment of them.

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11 Improve Your Family Life and Relationships

Tracy, Brian Berrett-Koehler Publishers ePub

The potential of the average person is like a huge ocean unsailed, a new continent unexplored, a world of possibilities waiting to be released and channeled toward some great good.

BRIAN TRACY

The quality of your family life and your relationships will determine most of your happiness or unhappiness. Your goals in this vital area of your personal life cannot be left to chance.

Men and woman are often different when it comes to their attitudes toward their relationships. Going back thousands of years, men were hunters while woman tended to the hearth and took care of the children.

Men derived their feelings of self-esteem and self-worth from demonstrating their proficiency as hunters, having the ability to bring back game and provide for their families. A man’s status in the tribe was determined by how good a hunter he was in comparison with the other men.

Jump ahead to the twenty-first century and very little has changed. Men still achieve their primary source of value and self-esteem by demonstrating their ability to hunt, to earn a good living, and to provide for their families. Men still compare themselves with other men in terms of their hunting ability. They seek out and admire symbols of success that tell others that they are good hunters and providers, such as cars, clothes, expensive watches, homes, and other material objects.

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The Power of Art

New World Library ePub

Last night was New Year’s Eve. There was a concert on television, a rerun of Leonard Bernstein conducting Beethoven’s Ninth Symphony in the Berlin Spielhaus on New Year’s Eve, 1989.

I remembered reading about it when it happened. It was an extraordinary concert for an extraordinary time. The Berlin Wall had fallen. People in Eastern Europe were alive with a joy we in America can only imagine. The atmosphere was heady, intoxicating, giddy with the thrill of freedom.

Musicians had gathered from the Soviet Union, the United States, and all over Europe for the performance. Choirs had been massed from around the world.

Leonard Bernstein had been asked to conduct. There he stood, a Jew who had lived through the dark years of the Holocaust, in the midst of the city that had symbolized both the Nazi regime and the division of the world into the camps of communism and democracy, preparing to lead an orchestra and chorus from the nations of the world in a song of healing and celebration.

He was also dying.

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1: Life in Alignment

Levesque, Paul Berrett-Koehler Publishers ePub

Success is going from failure to failure without loss of enthusiasm.

— WINSTON CHURCHILL

“Oh, I’d love to have a boat like that. I dream of sailing to the tropics on my own boat some day.”

“I’d give anything for a dream house like the one in that movie.”

“She really landed a dream job. Her new benefits package is a dream.”

“Oh well—I can always dream, can’t I?”

Dream on, brother. Sister, dream on.

We all yearn for things. The stuff of dreams. But interestingly, only very few of us actually set about trying to make our dreams come true in any serious, methodical way. Instead, we devote the bulk of our leisure time watching or reading about the real or fictional exploits of others as they pursue their respective big dreams.

So, while we’re on the subject of fictional exploits—read any good stories lately? See any good movies recently?

The reason for asking is that you can learn something important from every gripping story ever told. It doesn’t matter how far back you go, from today’s hit movies and novels, through old-time radio dramas and silent movies, to literary classics from another age, back even to ancient myths and legends. For any story to capture the interest and imagination of its audience, it must at the very least have a central character who is driven by a powerful personal sense of purpose. In every story, these central characters find themselves with an important job to do or a serious problem to solve—they are on a mission—and they are obsessed with getting the mission accomplished.

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Who You Gonna Be While You Do What You Do? The Song

McAfee, Barbara Berrett-Koehler Publishers ePub

 

 

Who you gonna be while
you do what you do?

How you gonna show up
while you’re passing through?

Barbara McAfee, from the
song “Who You Gonna Be
While You Do What You Do?”1

 

The word “personality” is derived from the Latin per sonare, which means “to sound through.” This phrase refers to a type of theatrical mask that was designed to amplify the sound of an actor’s voice. This etymological link between sound and identity is an apt one: our voices are a direct reflection of who we think we are—and sometimes who we wish we weren’t.

Your ego’s job is to maintain a prescribed identity for you. It tells you, “You are this kind of person, not that kind.” It defines the boundaries between what’s “you” and “not you”—a very useful distinction. I like to think of the ego as a kind of psychological immune system: it identifies anything that runs counter to the story you tell about yourself and kills it off. If we constructed this ego in a reasonable and purposeful way, it would serve us quite well. The problem is, the stories we tell ourselves about who we are get cobbled together out of a random mishmash of personal history, unconscious fear, other people’s expectations, and cultural conditioning. Many of the stories aren’t the least bit true—and can even sabotage our deepest beliefs, values, and intentions.

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21 Get Out of Your Comfort Zone

Muchnick, Mark Berrett-Koehler Publishers ePub

MOST PEOPLE DON’T relish the opportunity to put themselves and others into uncomfortable situations. Tim Haggstrom is a bit different in that he makes his living doing it. You see, Tim’s job is taking people up on high-elements ropes courses so that they can embrace their innermost fears and anxieties while suspended anywhere between thirty to fifty feet above the ground. The outdoor challenge exercises he facilitates—each designed to promote personal growth and development—get people to stretch beyond their comfort zones and serve as the impetus for positive behavioral change.

Tim is a firm believer that behaviors don’t change if you keep doing exactly what you’ve always done and remain in an insulated environment. This has direct implications for regrets. For instance, if you always stay in your comfort zone, how can you grow and reach your full potential? In addition, failing to get out of your comfort zone may consequently make you risk averse and lead to the regret of feeling stifled, complacent, or bored with life.

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2: Defining Your Dream

Levesque, Paul Berrett-Koehler Publishers ePub

If you can dream it, you can do it.

—WALT DISNEY

Even when some business organizations (and individuals too) discover the usefulness of defining a mission for themselves, they frequently make the mistake of assuming that the challenge before them is primarily one of wordsmithing. They strive with such diligence to draft a statement of their mission that sounds good, they forget that the primary objective should be to define a mission that feels good—that is, one that excites, that motivates, that inspires (compels) action. This is what we mean when we refer to the need for a “compelling” mission.

Rather than “wordcrafting,” the process of defining the mission in compelling terms is an exercise in basic dreamcrafting. Simply put, a mission—any mission—will qualify as compelling only if it meets three basic criteria:

It’s worth taking a few moments to briefly elaborate on these criteria.

The first mentions “change.” It’s a peculiar thing—most people are inclined to resist and dread change, and yet at the same time most are also inclined to feel dissatisfied with the status quo. Something of a paradox, it would seem.

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9 Adapting to New and Different Cultures

Seddiqui, Daniel Berrett-Koehler Publishers ePub

Am I in Amish Country yet? I wondered as I drove through the rolling hills of Lancaster County. I couldn’t be; there was a gas station back there. On the pavement of the two-lane highway, there were white circles every twenty meters; I later learned that these are there to warn cars to keep a two-circle distance from one another to prevent tailgating. As I drove around a turn, I spotted a horse and buggy trotting along on the shoulder of the highway. No way; this is so unreal, I thought to myself. But there they were, a little girl and her father riding in their own lane next to the heavy car traffic. If not for the large reflector on the back of the black boxy buggy, I might have overlooked it as it was obscured in the shade of the trees. So the reflectors are important modern additions. I drove slowly and carefully as I approached from behind. I could hear the horses’ hooves pounding the pavement and was eager to catch my first glimpse of the Amish.

When I finally arrived, I searched for a place to eat and found a “Pennsylvania Dutch” restaurant. I didn’t recognize any dish on the menu. I ended up eating chicken croquettes, Amish breaded chicken. It was so good, I wanted every other dish I’d never heard of. From the window of the booth I sat in, I saw a line of horses and buggies following one another to a park across the street. I decided to walk over and see what the occasion was.

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Chapter 2 Present Value in the Day-to-Day World

Neuwirth, Peter Berrett-Koehler Publishers ePub

PRESENT VALUE IN THE DAY-TO-DAY WORLD

The idea of Present Value lurks just below the surface of an overwhelming number of decisions we make on a day-to-day basis, and being aware of its presence and how to incorporate it will lead to making better choices. In this chapter, we will look at a few of the common types of mundane decisions that arise in everyday life and see how taking a few extra minutes to think in terms of Present Value can often shed an entirely new light on those questions.

Shortly after I began writing this book, my wife came to me and said that she was pretty sure we needed a new refrigerator. Needless to say, this was not exactly welcome news, and my fiscal defenses were immediately mobilized. My first response—perhaps familiar to many of you—was, “Why? The one we have is still working fine. And besides, it’s only seven years old, and the guy at Sears told us it should last ten or fifteen years at least.” I had a sinking feeling that this was the first volley in a campaign designed to achieve a comprehensive kitchen remodeling. But my wife knows me better than to lead with esthetics, and so she quite reasonably pointed out that while it was true that the fridge was still keeping everything cool, the outside of it seemed to be running hotter than normal and as our electric bill had recently been outrageously high she was sure we would actually save money if we bought a new one. If true, this was a powerful argument and one that I could not effectively parry. Essentially, she was saying that putting all the nonquantifiable reasons aside (and believe me she was loaded for bear if I ever engaged in that discussion) the Present Value of our future refrigeration expenses would be less if we purchased a new one now than if we waited for the old one to live out its life using up more and more electricity to do so. Clearly, the question called for just the kind of systematic thinking described earlier, so let’s see how I applied our 5-step process.

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Tracy, Brian Berrett-Koehler Publishers ePub
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1 Seeing What Is

Wheatley, Margaret J. Berrett-Koehler Publishers ePub

 

I’m sitting on the banks of the Virgin River in Zion National Park, my favorite place on the planet. The river is confidently, casually flowing through this magnificent canyon that it has been carving out for about two million years.

The canyon has created one of Earth’s most sacred places. It has been a dry winter, so the river is low, ambling peacefully along. I’ve been here at other times when it’s fierce, flooding, destructive. Next time I’m back it will be different again.

I’ve learned a lot from rivers, starting with the teacher stream I wrote about in Leadership and the New Science. That lovely mountain stream taught me about process structures, things that have clear identity and intention yet constantly adapt to circumstances and conditions, changing their form as needed. Streams take many forms yet never lose their way, which is unerringly to the ocean. Along the way, they create magnificent canyons, wreak terrible destruction, provide sustenance to farms and communities, provide pleasure and pain to those who live along their banks. This is the pattern of life—changing, adapting, creating and destroying.

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Chapter 2: Good and Bad News: Evoked and Compressed

Schuster, John P Berrett-Koehler Publishers ePub

In Dickens’s classic A Tale of Two Cities, just prior to the French Revolution, the aging Doctor Manette is withering from the many years of deprivation of an unjustified imprisonment in the infamous Bastille. He loses almost all of his memory and becomes a shadow of his former self. He hardly knows who he is and has forgotten his place in society. His only activity is to cobble shoes in the dark, a pastime to help him endure prison, and he can barely tolerate the light of day.

His family finds him and frees him, brings him home, and wonders what is possible for this shadow of a person. Manette’s daughter, Lucie, asks him to reengage his will for his own betterment: “I hope,” she says, yearning for the father she once knew, “you care to be recalled to life?” Manette answers haltingly, “I can’t say.”

Like Doctor Manette, how can we say, here at the beginning, if recalling our memories is a process from which we can gain? Let’s begin by understanding the important lessons we forget with unattended memories.

Evoked and Enabled, Narrowed and Compressed
You were not dropped into paradise when you were born. You encountered a world filled with the good, the neutral, the bad, the ugly, the funny, the tragic, the tender, the gritty
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