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CHAPTER FOUR: Love is my religion

Orit Badouk Epstein Karnac Books ePub

Anonymous *

Iwas born the first daughter in a long line of first daughters. My mother came from a long line of people who took part in ritual abuse. For a long time, this was something that my father knew nothing about because this was something that happened through the women in my family, a very powerful, matriarchal family that I grew up in. I'm second generation Irish. My parents were staunch Catholics, so I was initially brought up with two ideologies—the catholic ideology and an inversion of that, which was Satanism.

My very early memories are of being a small baby in a room with my mother, grandmother, and other women; later, men joined in too, and they would cut marks on my body and they would throw me to each other, around the room. My early memories of these experiences are of being very startled, terrified, and disorientated. It was not long before I went from being one baby to two babies, three babies, more …

The women in my family had some very twisted ideas about men and women. Men were very stupid. Women were much more powerful, much more significant, and much more important. Sex was dirty and sinful, but it was our job to satisfy men because they were weak. You had to keep them happy.

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CHAPTER FIVE: Working with the Incredible Hulk

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Orit Badouk Epstein

It is a known fact that working with survivors of ritual abuse mainly involves working with female survivors. Less has been said about working with male survivors. I am going to tell you about some of my experiences with a male survivor of ritual abuse. My client, a twenty-eight-year old, very intelligent and highly creative young man, came to see me after spending most of his adult life wandering from AA to SLA (Sex, Love Anonymous) trying to combat his addiction to alcohol and watching pornography on the Internet and making calls to phone sex lines.

I will name him Bruce, after the character from the film The Hulk, and later on I will explain the link. Bruce was born into an upper middle-class, well-educated family (his maternal grandfather went to Oxbridge, and paternal grandmother was from the aristocracy). He grew up in a wealthy village where the golf and rugby clubs were the hub of a well-established and well-connected paedophile ring. It was in this leafy rural setting that the most horrific childhood sexual and physical abuse and mind control took place, concealed within a middle-class environment more closely associated with cream teas, Christmas parties, and sporting activities that enhanced their masculinity and superiority. These people were wellconnected, with access to finance, weapons, factories, mansions, and even aircraft.

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Chapter Two - A White Boy goes to Mississippi

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Joseph Schwartz

1. The terror without

At Berkeley in the ’50s, where the left wing faculty had been purged in the mess around the loyalty oath, we students campaigned for fair housing against University of California housing officer, Ruth Donnelly, and lost. The Free Speech Movement was to come later. So were radical black representatives Ron Dellums and his successor, Barbara Lee (Democrat, Oakland). Lee was the only member of Congress, following 9/11, to vote against the war in Iraq.

The 1957 Montgomery bus boycott led by Rosa Parks was electrifying. So was the 1960 Greensboro lunch counter sit-in.

In 1961 we heard that Bob Moses had gone to McComb, Mississippi to work on voter registration. Sharp intake of breath. Community organising in Mississippi? Saul Alinsky had done it successfully in Back-of-the-Yards, Chicago. But Mississippi? DeeDee Skinner and I looked at each other: “Jesus Christ. That's brave”.

The lynching of black people in America was a fact of life. DeeDee and I were “red diaper babies” (children of communist party members or sympathisers). We knew about it. The frame-up and execution of Willie McGee in 1951, the lynchings of fourteen-year-old Emmett Till in 1955 in Money, Mississippi and twenty-three-year-old Mack Parker in 1959 in Poplarville were just recent examples that had received national attention. In 1930, the fourteen-year-old James Cameron narrowly escaped being lynched along with two nineteen year olds, Thomas Shipp and Abram Smith in Marion, Indiana. He later described it:

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Chapter Six - Stepping into the Void of Dissociation: a Therapist and a Client in Search of a Meeting Place

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Shoshi Asheri

The premise of this chapter is that when a client enters the therapy room bringing with them their traumatic experience, in whatever disorganised or dissociated, physiological and/or psychological manifestations, they inevitably enter into a relationship with a part of the therapist that would rather remain dissociated than feel the unbearable feelings that an engagement with such trauma can evoke, particularly if the therapist carries a related trauma of his or her own. If we accept this premise, an important and intriguing question arises: how do we negotiate a therapeutic meeting in the face of the unconscious pact between a therapist and a client to remain dissociated?

In order to explore this question I will relate a clinical experience in which my client's dissociated domestic trauma entered into a relationship with my dissociated political and personal trauma. What could have been a potentially re-traumatising re-enactment between two people longing to be met, but remaining lost to each other in the void of their respective dissociations, became the key to a profound, mutually therapeutic, meeting.

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Chapter Four - The Place of Fear in Attachment Theory and Psychoanalysis: The Fifteenth John Bowlby Memorial Lecture

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Arietta Slade

Introduction

Today I will be talking about fear and its place in attachment theory and psychoanalysis. In the hierarchy of human motivations, Bowlby placed particular emphasis on attachment because it is essential to our physical and psychological survival. And he privileged fear of loss and danger because these elemental reactions drive and organise the activation and deactivation of the attachment system, regulate physical and psychological proximity seeking and contact maintenance, and shape the organisation of mental life.

At the time that Bowlby began formulating his theory of human attachment, psychoanalysis placed virtually no emphasis on the role of fear and the search for safety in the development of personality and psychopathology. This had much to do, of course, with Freud's particular interest in internal reality, and his relative lack of interest in relationships. Bowlby, by contrast, was greatly interested in actual experience, and believed that attending to the dynamics of fear and its regulation within the context of actual attachment relationships would fundamentally change psychoanalysis (1969, 1973, 1980, 1988). For Bowlby, an emphasis on fear and the search for safety offered a crucial corrective to the theories of motivation, development, and psychopathology that prevailed in psychoanalysis at the time. For many years, however, this corrective fell on deaf ears within the analytic community, which actively rejected Bowlby and his ideas for several decades.

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