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Chapter Four: Deception

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While overtly destructive acts derived from rage and hatred draw sharp clinical and public attention, far more damage is done to human relations by the quieter evils of lying, cheating, and deceit. In myriad forms that range from pretentious decorum at official events to pseudo-cordiality among political adversaries, from socially convenient bending of truth to outright lying for monetary gain, and from laborious inflation of the self to deliberate fraud for seducing others, deception corrodes trust that is the glue of attachment and interpersonal bonds. Regardless of its form, deception arises from trauma and causes suffering to self and others. A common denominator in various types of deception (e.g., mendacity, forgery, betrayal) is the existence of a lie.

It is this central feature that I will address in this contribution. I will begin with elucidating the formal characteristics of lies and the motivations that propel individuals to distort the truth. In the passages that follow, I will take up the developmental achievements necessary for the capacity for lying to emerge. Then I will make a brief sociocultural foray into the worlds of art and entertainment, politics, propaganda, advertising, forgery, and counterfeit. Following this digression, I will return to the clinical realm and address the implications of lying for conducting psychotherapy and psychoanalysis. I will conclude with a few synthesising remarks.

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Arnold Richards

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Editor of the Journal of the American Psychoanalytic Association from 1994 to 2003 and before that of The American Psychoanalyst, Arnold Richards is a Training and Supervising Analyst at the New York Psychoanalytic Institute. He is a member of the American Psychoanalytic Association and received its Distinguished Contributor Award in 2004. He is a member of the American Psychological Association–Division 39, the New York Psychoanalytic Society and Institute, the New York Freudian Society, the Psychoanalytic Association of New York, the Western New York Psychoanalytic Society, Honorary Member of the American Institute of Psychoanalysis/Karen Horney Clinic and the New Jersey Psychoanalytic Society. He is the former Chairman of the Board of the YIVO Institute for Jewish Research and a current Board member.

(Muriel Weinstein died two summers ago. She fell off a mountain in Switzerland, where she loved to climb)

You celebrated your self

and rightly so.

You reveled in your senses,

pampered them with aliment

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Gerald Garguilo

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Gerald J. Gargiulo is a member of the American Psychoanalytic as well as the International Psychoanalytical Association. He is a former president of the NPAP Psychoanalytic Training Institute in NYC and is currently on the editorial boards of The Psychoanalytic Review and Psychoanalytic Psychology. He is the author of three texts and over ninety professional articles. His most recent book is a personal memoir entitled Broken Fathers/Broken Sons. Dr. Gargiulo practices in Stamford, Ct, and has had a life long interest in poetry, philosophy and theology along with his studies in psychoanalysis. His wife, Julia, was a life long companion in these pursuits until her recent passing.

Past the mid-point of

Our lives

When wisdom’s consolation

Interrupts

The rush of time,

We recall when first we made the

World,

And knew it as our own.

But life betrays

By seasonal design:

Before each May

Our absence grows,

Compassion’s shadow then brings

No relief

And Autumn tells—

We are a memory of light

Fleeing the forgetfulness

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I

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I

I love trees that are neither young nor old.

Trees that are taken seriously by animals.

Trees soaked in rain.

Trees that lack cleverness, fall asleep easily.

Trees that bear fruits liked by women.

Trees seen in dreams.

Trees that want to be near a river.

I love all such trees and I love ice cream.

Walk gingerly from now onwards.

The squirming dollop of love on an outstretched palm
slips, slides, slithers,
tends to spill.

Sharpen your knife.

Incise the thin skin of my temperament.

Cut through my rib cage.

Take out the ravaged heart that keeps my foolish hopes alive.

Block the vessels in which poetry of my ancestors flows.

Remove my intestines too, so that gut feelings lead me astray
no more.

Do not fret that I might not survive the surgery.

Do not worry that you might cause insufferable damage
since far worse has been sent my way
by my kin and by passing time.

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Forrest Hamer

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Forrest Hamer is the author of three books of poetry: Call & Response (Alice James Books, 1995), winner of the Beatrice Hawley Award; Middle Ear (Roundhouse Press, 2000), winner of the Northern California Book Award; and Rift (Four Way Books, 2007.) His work appears in three editions of Best American Poetry, and he has taught on the poetry faculty of the Callaloo Creative Writing Workshops. He is a graduate and faculty member at the San Francisco Center for Psychoanalysis, in private practice in Oakland, and a staff member at the Masonic Center for Youth and Families in San Francisco. For years he imagined that his writing life and clinical life existed mostly in parallel but were not related necessarily to each other. But, over time, the two careers developed in tandem, coming closer to each other. He now strives to be more conscious of the fact that the poems he authors are written by a psychoanalyst, and the psychoanalysis he practices is conducted by a poet.

How, at the end of a long and complex story,

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