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10. Pain Is Necessary

Dr. Bernie S. Siegel New World Library ePub

In this chapter I will ask you to see loss as a way to strengthen your soul. This may seem strange at first, but loss is just the inevitable result of the passage of time. As one woman who had cancer and was about to lose a part of her body wrote, “Do we perhaps shed things as we go through life so that other features may be enhanced?”

I remember standing in the yard with our son, Jeff, who is a master gardener, talking about how difficult I found it pruning live plants and trees. I felt very uncomfortable cutting off a living branch. Jeff reminded me that I had no problem in the operating room cutting away parts of a person that were diseased or no longer useful. I said I could do it because it helped the person to be well, and my son said that the same was true for him when he pruned a tree or plant. His words have helped me to understand the need to give up some things in order for us to thrive and survive.

Pain and loss can be great teachers and guides. They help us to define, nourish, and protect ourselves. When we are hungry, we seek nourishment, and the experience of pain or loss leads us to do the same thing. Emotional pain becomes destructive when the loss itself becomes our only focus, rather than focusing on what we still have left. Animals have amputations and, to quote one veterinarian, “Wake up and lick their owner’s faces.” They are still capable of loving and feeling whole.

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Notes From the Editor

Journal of School Public Relations Rowman & Littlefield Publishers ePub


The need for school personnel to communicate effectively with parents is greater today than at any point in the past. This is in part attributed to technology, which makes it possible to exchange information rapidly and continually. Even so, relational communication is often thwarted by social and cultural barriers—obstacles that have become common in a society that has become increasingly diverse.

This issue includes insightful research articles that help us to understand why it is sometimes difficult for administrators and teachers to communicate with parents. In the first article, Cheryl Fields-Smith, from the University of Georgia, examines the reasons why African American parents elect to participate in their children’s education. Her research addresses how age and socioeconomic factors may influence parental behavior in relation to their taking an active role in schooling.

The second article, by Susan Stratton from State University of New York College at Cortland, focuses on democratic dialogue between Spanish-speaking parents and English-speaking educators. Findings indicate that explicit training in group participation on democratic dialogue had a positive effect on parents and on communication that followed the training.

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Chapter Eight: Ferenczi's concepts of identification with the aggressor and play as foundational processes in the analytic relationship

Andrew B Druck Karnac Books ePub

Jay Frankel

I understand clinical psychoanalysis as a process of symbolizing experiences that have thus far been too imbued with fear or anxiety to allow them to be thought about. Symbolizing these experiences allows them to be held in mind, considered, tested against ongoing reality, placed into some realistic and workable perspective, and integrated into the personality. As this happens, new patterns of thinking, feeling, and perceiving can emerge. Given the right conditions, symbolization is a natural activity of the ego. Thus, the clinical challenge of psychoanalysis is to create conditions that allow the symbolization of excluded experience to occur.

Such conditions, designed to invite the patient's experience into the analytic space in a vivid way, include a situation that does not impinge very much on the patient's experience and that offers an unusual degree of freedom of expression of thoughts and feelings by the patient, and an analyst who can be felt to be essentially benign, dependable, and emotionally resonant.

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Chapter Four On Father’s Side: The Baks

Samuel S. Bak Indiana University Press ePub
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Chapter Fifteen

Naomi Lloyd Karnac Books ePub

By January 2004 the end of my counselling training was in sight. A requirement was that we attend two residential weekends, designed to enhance our personal development through an exposure that would deepen our relational experience. As the new term got underway, we were informed that our final residential, at the end of January, would be a “Jungian Weekend”. We were each asked to prepare a presentation to be delivered to the group, which should reflect the “theme” for the weekend. With significant emphasis, our tutors announced that the theme was, “From my Soul to my Being”.

In the weeks that followed, this theme provoked much anxious discussion, since we were initially very uncertain about the expected content of our presentations. It emerged that having now spent almost three years developing self-knowledge and reflectiveness in personal therapy and within the group, it was now time to reveal something of the depth and significance of what we had learned about ourselves. Our tutors encouraged us to approach the theme as imaginatively as possible, by including any creative medium which would help express our self-awareness. In contrast to our usual circle of chairs, a different environment would be devised—one which would enhance the relational quality of the encounter. However, there was a reluctance to give too much away beforehand. We were simply promised “an inspirational weekend”, which would profoundly deepen our self-growth and empathic rapport with each other. The subject of the Jungian weekend was to become a constantly recurring topic of conversation—and as January drew to a close, a mood of excited anticipation was evident.

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A Poem Written While Riding an Irish Bike: Knock Knock

Gallas, John Carcanet Press Ltd. PDF
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Joshua Kryah University Press of Colorado ePub

Or we were poor and we did not know we were.

Or we were not poor and we thought we were.

Or we knew we were not poor.

Or just enough we did not deny being poor.

Or others told us we were poor and we believed we were.

Or this is what we told ourselves when we disliked others.

Or it was good to be poor among those who were not poor.

Or we had friends who were poor but did not know they were.

Or the poor were always among us.

Or we wanted nothing to do with the poor even if we were poor.

Or someone somewhere in our family had been poor.

Or it was a story we learned from our older brother who told us we were poor.

Or we told ourselves “at least we’re not poor.”

Or we made up things to make our lives a little less poor.

Always blood and those who give of it so freely.

The hemophiliac, the martyr.

The meatpacking plant at the end of the street.

Piles of ice dumped out back, soaked with the blood of deer, their hind legs broken, stabbed through, hung to drain.

And the children, always the children.

Gathering the ice into small handfuls, licking it as one would a snow cone.

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Cara Blessley Lowe University Press of Colorado ePub


Arizona—Border Patrol agents, immigrants, and a wild puma unknowingly commingle on a harsh desert landscape, each of them aiming to avert the eyes of the next.

The female puma sleeps in a dense thicket of mesquite and acacia trees. Songbirds and owls occupy the branches above, while a rattlesnake lies curled up in a pile of rocks close by. Flies find the moisture hidden in the puma’s nostrils. As her body twitches, her ears funnel sound to her brain relaying information about her surroundings. The breaking of branches and heavy shuffling of feet disrupt the puma’s dream. She lifts a heavy eyelid and waits. Fifty yards from her day bed figures are seeking shade from the noon sun. They are loud and clumsy with their movements. The puma raises her head and watches. What she witnesses is not new to her. This disturbance is becoming more and more common in her daily existence.

Four people find refuge in the shade of a large ash tree. They are sweaty and tired, gulping dirty water from their half full milk jugs. They speak in soft tones and look over their surroundings. The puma can smell their fear. The first time the puma encountered humans she was intrigued with their awkward movements. She had followed the people as they walked a desert path. Their two feet scraped and stumbled under them while their arms swung and flailed in an opposing movement. The creatures fumbled so much as they moved across the terrain that they appeared to be injured. They were also loud, emitting noises constantly, and they sounded like they were both dying and claiming their territory at the same time. There were loud huffs, high-pitched squeals, guttural screams, and low moans.

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One: Cape Town

Marisa Handler Berrett-Koehler Publishers ePub

Lunchtime at Camps Bay Primary School is when things tend to go severely wrong. Outside the structure of a syllabus, beyond the rigorous scrutiny of our teachers, I reliably blunder. These forty-minute daily ordeals typically consist in no small portion of us prattling about what our parents prattled about over the last night’s supper table. Election time is no different.

“Who are your parents voting for?” Joan turns to Catherine first. Joan is my best friend, and the only girl who can legitimately kick my ass at the hundred-meter sprint. Of course, going to an all-white public school does cut out a good chunk of the competition.

“The Nats, obviously.” Catherine nibbles delicately on the edge of her sandwich. Blond, green-eyed, and irritatingly demure, Catherine is the resident beauty in Standard 4P, Camps Bay Primary. At least half of the boys sitting on the other end of the playground spend lunchtime gazing at her with unadulterated longing. I, on the other hand, wend my way from one humiliating, clumsy crush to the next. Any attention I do get from boys is strictly limited to my skinny legs or massive, unwieldy glasses. Following the purchase of our house in Camps Bay, a sleepy beach suburb of Cape Town, my parents had been feeling a tad pinched when it came to finances. My mother succeeded in convincing my sister and me that her old frames were just perfect for us. Given that my vision verges on legally blind, the abnormally thick, oversized lenses make for a fearsome sight.

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Dr. Mahendra Kumar Padhy Laxmi Publications PDF










The present chapter explains print presentation of lifestyle advertisements. Twenty-five print advertisements were collected and analysed from different magazines. For advertisement copy, please see Appendix I.

Gone are those days, when goods and services were advertised in terms of their quality only.

There is a sea change in the present day advertising market scenario. Most of the present day advertisements, besides communicating product quality, disseminate lifestyle elements.

Advertisements are an integral part of the commodity culture, which in turn has become an important sign of modernity. They signify for the viewer a ‘modern’ self marked by consumerism, such that the purchase and consumption of commodities constitute in itself a value. This is what

Stuart Ewen in all-consuming images calls the “commodity self ”, a selfhood or identity mediated and constructed through the use of consumption of commodities. This is how advertisements succeed in producing or at least influencing changes in lifestyle, so much so that cultural theorists have argued that they promote not products but lifestyles. The advertisements below clearly demonstrate this through the human subjects that they present.

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Dresden Plate

Emily Cier C&T Publishing ePub


15″ × 15″


Crib: 45″ × 60″

Lap: 60″ × 60″

Twin: 75″ × 90″

Queen: 90″ × 90″

This hard-edged Dresden Plate uses contrast and angles to bring an entirely new look without changing the structure of the classic pattern.

There should be a stark contrast between the solids and prints and between the prints themselves. The chart lists the minimum number of prints needed, but additional prints may be used for more variety. Precut 10″ × 10″ layer cake squares may be used instead and will give an even wider variety.

No additional cutting is needed for the layer cake squares.

∗wof = width of fabric

1. Sort the 10″ print squares into roughly equal stacks of at least 5 squares each. When sorting, make sure to evenly distribute the patterns, colors, and design styles. You want each stack to be as diverse as possible.

2. Take the first stack and spread the squares into a row. Arrange the squares, making sure no 2 matching colors or prints are next to each other and that the first and last squares are different. Stack the squares, aligning the edges for cutting. Repeat for the other stacks.

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28. Sharing Biking through Culture by Amy Walker

New World Library ePub

Amy Walker

Culture is the mirror that helps us to understand ourselves through art, language, entertainment, and conversation, and it is as vital as food, water, and air to life as we know it. Our ideals and interests are intrinsic to culture, and though culture sometimes brings clarity and understanding, at its best it often provokes further questions. Culture is something we do when we’ve covered the bases of survival: when we have extra time on our hands, our imaginations start wandering.

Bike culture can be any form of expression that portrays bicycling, including video, writing, music, TV, photography, painting, or performance. Nineteenth-century posters depicting scantily clad female cyclists; H. G. Wells’s 1896 comic novel The Wheels of Chance; the movies BMX Bandits and Breaking Away; events like Critical Mass, the World Naked Bike Ride, and Portland’s Pedalpalooza; products like R.E.Load messenger bags; Bilenky, Vanilla, and Ahearne handmade bikes; Filmed by Bike and the Bicycle Film Festival; magazines like Momentum, Urban Velo, and Bicycle Times; Jemaine Clement and Bret McKenzie of Flight of the Conchords singing “Too Many Mother ’uckers” while riding their bikes — all of these and more are bike culture.

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4 Paris

Rynn, Margie FrommerMedia ePub

Cars zoom past the Arc de Triomphe in early evening

The word “Paris” conjures up such a potent brew of images and ideas that it’s sometimes hard to find the meeting point between myth and reality. But the city’s graceful streets, soaked in history, really are as elegant as they say, its monuments and museums as extraordinary; and a slightly world-weary, fin-de-siècle grandeur really is part of day-to-day existence. Paris is much more than a beautiful assemblage of buildings, however; it is the pulsing heart of the French nation.

Where to begin? With so many wonderful things to see, it’s easy to get overwhelmed in the City of Light. If you are here for only a few days, you’ll probably be spending most of your time in the city center, the nucleus of which is the Ile de la Cité. The top neighborhoods on most short-term visitors’ hit parade are the 1st through 8th arrondissements (see “City Layout,” below), which includes the Ile de la Cité, the Louvre area, the Champs Elysées, the Eiffel Tower, the Latin Quarter, the Marais, and St-Germain. If you have a bit more time, you should explore some of the outlying neighborhoods, like the funky and dynamic eastern areas of Mesnilmontant, Belleville, Canal St-Martin, and Bastille, or the elegant, museum-rich depths of the 16th arrondissement. Whether you’re here for a few days or longer, this chapter is designed to give you the essential information you need to create a Paris itinerary that’s just right for you.

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3. Intention and Commitment

Cyndi Crother Berrett-Koehler Publishers ePub


Have you ever thought about your intention in life? If you knew that a commitment to your intention would affect all of the relationships in your life, wouldn’t you take some time to think about it? One of the steps on the path to greatness is to live with a conscious purpose or intention. Unless you have been living your life with a conscious purpose or intention, you have to assume that, up to this point, your experiences are the result of an unconscious intention.

The fishmongers have each developed personal as well as collective intentions and commitments. We invite you to take a moment and think about the following questions:


At Pike Place Fish, the fishmongers foster a collective intention to make a positive difference in people’s lives, and they are committed to one another’s greatness. Their commitment allows each fishmonger the opportunity to be great and to do amazing things. When you allow the people around you to know your intention and commitment, they will be equally committed to you—possibly even more committed. Intention and commitment often go hand in hand, as Andy’s story indicates.

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4. A Guide to FOSTERing Stakeholder Relationships

Ann Svendsen Berrett-Koehler Publishers ePub

The nut and the screw form a perfect combination not because they are different, but because they exactly fit into each other and together can perform a function which neither could perform half or alone or any part of alone.

—Mary Parker Follett, 1940

Today, “doing it alone” is less feasible than in the past. Our society is more complex, we are more interdependent on a local as well as a global level, and governments have fewer resources to spend on solving social problems. As one of the leading collaboration theorists, William Isaacs, says, “Thinking alone is no longer adequate. The problems are too complex, interdependencies too intricate, and the consequences of isolation and fragmentation too devastating.”1

This chapter provides a framework or guide for companies that know that doing it alone is not the best strategy for success. It introduces the acronym “FOSTER” to represent each of six steps for building, or FOSTERing, a web of collaborative stakeholder relationships. “F” is for establishing a solid foundation for relationship building, “O” is for organizational alignment, “S” is for strategy development, “T” is for the process of building trust, “E” is for evaluation, and “R” is for repeat, recognizing that the process of relationship building is continuous. The word “FOSTER” is chosen deliberately as it means “to nourish, to bring up with care and to help grow or develop.”2 The six steps to FOSTERing stakeholder relationships are summarized in table 3. 63

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