Since Freud’s 1914 original essay “On Narcissism: An Introduction”, narcissistic issues, narcissistic love and object choice, narcissistic pathology, and, ultimately, the very essence of narcissism have been the subject of extensive writings in the psychoanalytic and the psychiatric literature. Furthermore, the terms narcissism and narcissistic have invaded everyday language. By becoming such an over-inclusive concept, narcissism is in danger of losing its theoretical and clinical specificity (Taylor, 1992).
This brief essay will examine the question of normal and pathological female narcissism, as well as the differences between the type of object choice among men and women as proposed by Freud in view of subsequent developments on gender and on the earliest stages of object relations. Freud himself was aware of the many unanswered questions his monograph raised. As quoted by Jones (see the Editor’s Notes for Freud, 1914c), Freud wrote to Abraham, “The Narcissism had a difficult labour and bears all the marks of a corresponding deformation” (p. 70).
From the very beginning of his career, when as a psychoanalyst Bion first treated psychotic patients, he realized —that their thinking constituted a pattern unto itself that was qualitatively, not just quantitatively, different from that of neurotics. As he made efforts to ferret out these distinctions, however, he broadened his research to normal thinking as well.
First, Bion drew an important distinction between thoughts and the thinker who thinks the thoughts—thinking being a function of a mind that had to be created to absorb and to transform the traffic of “thoughts” emerging from the process of experience. Bion cited the model of the alimentary track to suggest that, like the gut, the mind must accept food (for thought), must be able to sort it out by separating it into its indivisible elements, must consequently have the capacity for certain functions that permit this refinement into elemental ingredients, and must then pass on these irreducible elements into the interior of the body (mind) for absorption and then storage (metabolism) and/or evacuation of those elements that are not useful or did not achieve proper prioritization in the transformation. Growing from experience depends upon learning from experience, and the latter depends upon the existence of functions that can accept experience and deconstruct it into its elements in preparation for absorption and metabolism. The thinking mind is characterized by the development of functions that harvest and digest experience, deconstructing it into elements capable of being “chewed on” and then encoded for storage and further processing.
My grandmother's first quilts were made for her hope chest, with the knowledge in her heart that she would someday meet my grandfather and start a family. I made a special quilt for my husband, Paul, when we were dating, and we received a masterpiece from my mother when we were married. All of these are beautiful, cherished quilts that celebrate another special bond, the bond between husband and wife.
Forget Me Knot is in honor of the timeless quilting tradition of making quilts to celebrate marriages and the beginning of families. This quilt is a little more involved than some of the other projects in the book, but I think it's worth it. It will certainly be cherished for generations to come.
Cream: 2½ yards for appliqué background and flying geese
Beige: 2¾ yards for appliqué background and flying geese background
People who like pro sports have a special disadvantage in team building: they expect the process to mirror their favorite sports team.
This expectation nearly always fails, and is especially unpleasant for other team members who dont happen to follow pro sports. Posting action pictures of Michael Jordan or Randy Moss or Picabo Street, in hopes of engendering feelings of healthy competition and stellar performance, just doesnt connect for everyone. But try explaining that to sports fans.
This disconnect was brought home to us by the publication a couple of years ago of Everyones a Coach, a collaboration between Ken (One-Minute Manager) Blanchard and Don Shula, Hall of Fame coach of the Miami Dolphins football team.
We love Ken Blanchard, and we admire Coach Shula. And the book is harmless enough, a melange of inspiring sports stories and happy team talk.
But then USA Today interviewed us for an article on the book, and the analogy between coaching pro sports teams and ordinary work teams. The paper wanted us to endorse the concept. Based on our experiences with teams, we couldnt do it.